When Your Man Looks at Other Women
Do you fee threatened or disrespected when your man looks at other women? Most women do. Are your feelings justified? Is it wrong for a man to look at other women? I mean he is with you, so why does he need to look at other women?
Is There a Threat When Your Man Looks at Other Women?
If you are like most women, when your man looks at another woman, you think he is comparing her to you. You fear he may find her more attractive than you. The fact of the matter is he may or may not find her more attractive than you. I mean think about it.
Is your man the most attractive man on earth? Do you not find that some men are physically more attractive than your boyfriend or husband? Does it mean you no longer want to be with your man now? Does it have any affect at all on the relationship that you are in?
Without going into science or the biology of how men are wired, the fact is it’s normal for men to look at other women. They have a basic instinct to spread their seed. Men are monogamous by choice, not by nature.
Men are more visually stimulated than women. They are programmed to favor variety. They simply aren’t wired like women are. Their brains product pleasure chemicals when they see attractive women. These chemicals are fleeting. A woman enters their field of vision and they notice. They look. Then the woman leaves his field of vision and he never thinks about her again.
You on the other hand are still thinking about him looking at this woman days after it has happened. If you wait days to ask him about it, he won’t even remember her. He probably isn’t going to remember her within minutes. So when you confront him and he says “what woman,” he really doesn’t remember. Out of sight, out of mind.
How to Deal When Your Man Looks at Another Woman
Do not nudge him in the ribs, shame him or confront him. Do not make him feel guilty or bad or like he has betrayed you. These behaviors may stop him from looking at other women when he is with you, but I assure you, he will still admire the female species when you aren’t around. Making a big deal out of it only tells your man you don’t trust him. Men need to be trusted, not to mention accepted.
When your man looks at other women, it’s normal. Why not relate to him instead of making him feel guilty? When your man looks at another woman, simply acknowledge to him that she is an attractive woman and watch his focus shift back to you. Share a bit in his appreciation for beauty. This is behavior that is foreign to most men and they’ll notice! And they’ll bond to you closer when they realize that no other woman will be as secure as you are. They don’t expect you to agree or not shoot them down for it. Next time you are walking down the street and his head turns to another woman, simply say “Wow, she is pretty isn’t she?”
Katarina actually does it with her boyfriend. They watch people (women) together. She will tease him about how hot some woman is and he’ll blush and yell “babe!” You see when you are okay with it, he restrains himself through his own volition.
And he loves her all the more thanks to it. Instead of wanting to act on it, he realizes how lucky he is to be in a relationship with her. His ex would make him wear the glasses horses wear to restrict his peripheral vision and their relationship was super toxic thanks to that, among other things.
If you feel threatened when he looks at other women, perhaps you aren’t aware of your own value. A high value woman knows what she brings to the table.
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