When You Want Your Ex Back, Keep Your Ego In Check
When you want your ex back, your ego can get in the way. It’s your ego that gets in the way seeking the approval and validation from your ex. If you want an ex back, you have to start with yourself first.
“I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years. He is an amazing guy. He would do almost everything I wanted and one day all of a sudden he stopped. Multiple things were going on in his life, that I didn’t want to understand. I only cared about me and I was not respecting his space.
The night before he went to Africa we met at a party. Five minutes of us meeting he told me he wanted to talk. I kept an open mind. He then told me I DON’T WANT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.
I didn’t react because he’d been acting as such. So I said okay…LOL. Then he seemed confused and kept taking it back hugging me, etc LOL.
Anyway, he went to Africa and I didn’t initiate. I started my Journey Inward (loved it ). It has helped me so much.
When he came back I was a new woman. I didn’t even care, I had a rotation of really nice good looking guys. The next day was Valentine’s. He texted me that morning “Happy Valentine’s, Big Head. I love you.”
So wow… just wow!
I was shocked because I wasn’t expecting that from him, then he kept asking what I was doing. I told him I had plans. Then he called (hadn’t called me in over a month). All of a sudden I was in my room doing my make up and guess who opened my door!
I was shocked. He was so affectionate towards me, following me around the house. Wow, I’m still in awe. He kept touching and hugging and kissing me. I was 20 minutes late to work LOL. He said he just wanted to let me know how much I meant to him. LOL… leaning back works miracles, you guys.
Best unexpected Valentine’s ever. He never remembered that day before.
He even made me a photo album of us of our two years. LOL, my alpha male sat down and made a photo album of us throughout our 2 year relationship! Who ever thought that.
We had the best sex ever and it has been good ever since. I learn to leave in the now, and stop resisting. I’m taking one day at a time. Thanks, Kat.”
Bonnie is one of the ladies who sees results almost overnight. She found me in December and in less than a month her ex began to slowly but steadily step up to the plate again. At first he was back and forth but following my method, she didn’t react. my method works like a charm when you want your ex back.
She just let him be.
If you are in a breakup situation being pushy and assertive won’t get you very far. Problem is though, it is at this time that being non-reactive is almost impossible to do.
That’s why you need me and my community. It’s hard to do it alone, I know. I’ve been there. Doubts, fear and resentment will eat you away in the inside. And if you have wised up just a little bit since your last mistake, you know that being reactive and demanding doesn’t work with men, does it?
Your ego is why your relationship has been nothing but rocky. Your ego needs constant validations and when it doesn’t get them, it will jump to the conclusion that you are not loved enough and “you deserve better.”
Yes you deserve a good man and a healthy fulfilling relationship and more….but you have to start from yourself first. Be emotionally healthy first. Be less dependent on your guy’s approval or validations. Tame your expectations.
It’s all very counterintuitive, right? Like….how does he know what I want/need if I don’t expect and air my expectations?
I hear that question all the time.
That’s the question the ego comes up with 24/7. But if you see how no expectations melted Bonnie’s guy’s heart, you will start working on taming them. Too much relationship advice centers on how to make the other person do something for you. That won’t work in the long run. Nobody likes to be told they’re not enough.
The ego needs to feel special. The ego needs certainty and can’t tolerate ambiguity. The ego seeks problems and keep them growing at an accelerating rate. And you don’t realize how you have been enslaved by your ego, do you?
Next thing you know your guy feels stifled and starts to check out cause he can’t make your ego happy.
And you get madder and madder. And he gets less and less invested. The cycle continues till you break it.
If you are tired being a pawn in the ego’s battle with itself and everyone else, it’s time to join my Journey Inward as Bonnie and over 1100 other ladies have done in the two years and a half. This program will take you on the path of understanding what kind of species the ego is and how to allow yourself to listen to your Higher Self more than to your ego.
This new year five ladies in our community got engaged (three happened on Valentine’s Day). And rest assured that wouldn’t have happened if these women had let their egos run rampage. The only thing in common is they are softened and non reactive. They are sanctuaries to their men.
Have you been a sanctuary to your man? If you are, he can’t lose you. He won’t want to. Good looks and tight bodies are easy to find but a woman who is radiating in her feminine energy is a rarity. That is why what I teach works extremely well.
If you are weary and wary because you are not sure if your relationship is going anywhere, I have held the 3rd cycle of Four Components Of Melting His Heart, “The Goddess Road To Engagement” Edition in celebration of the so-many engagements in the group.
This program has given birth to 17 engagements in just three cycles so you really don’t want to miss it and it’s ongoing now with Module 2 Understanding Men and Four Components of Melting His Heart:
Have you read my book yet? If not grab it here because you will learn so much about a lot of things that haven’t worked for you in your love life and how to fix them. And I have just recently updated it with additional 20 new pages so there is more meat in it now. If you sign up to my newsletter, you will receive the first three chapters. This book is a primer on dating and gaining a man’s love and adoration for any woman.
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