Should I Text Him – Read This Before You Shoot Another Text!

should i text him

Should I text him or should I not?  Whoever thought that would be a one million dollar question in today’s dating and relating.  A lot of women are blatherers when it comes to texting.  They text long paragraphs with lots of abbreviations and repeatedly before he has a chance to respond. That takes away so much mystery out of your

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Why do Men Disappear then Reappear Again

why do men disappear

Many women that reach out to me for help deeply ponder why do men disappear, often without a word.  They look for reasons and justifications for why he disappears then reappears again.  There really are no justifications for this behavior.  You see a man does exactly what it is he wants to do. Hannah, 28, has been in limbo for

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Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Does Your Anxiety Make Him So?

You may wonder is he emotionally unavailable.  You read the signs of his hot and cold, push pull behavior as emotionally unavailable.  Often this may not be the case at all.  It could be that you aren’t creating the space for him to feel safe showing his emotions to you in the first place.  Jenny wrote me: “Hi Katarina, I

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Why Men Pull Away – Or Do They, Really?

Why men pull away has been the biggest source of anxiety for women. Often women in their anxiety assume that a guy is pulling away when what he’s doing is just living his life.  This is a normal rubber band effect that most guys go through.  He has his priorities in order, and relationship isn’t on the list at the

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Why He Won’t Talk About His Feelings – He Doesn’t Feel Safe With You

So he won’t talk about his feelings and you are taking it all personal.  When you measure the success of your relationship on what he does or does not do, you won’t be happy. He sees your  requests for more of his feelings as controlling and pressure.  This doesn’t inspire him to open up more to you, but quite the

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He Can’t Step Up If You Keep Beating Him To The Punch

How to get him to step up if you’re the one who is rowing the boat?  You can’t.  Here’s the fact: most relationships that thrive always start with men who are more eager about the women than the other way around.   It’s true in my case and many other people I know.  The guys really “chase” and lead.  The

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