Is He Emotionally Unavailable Or Does Your Anxiety Make Him So?

You may wonder is he emotionally unavailable.  You read the signs of his hot and cold, push pull behavior as emotionally unavailable.  Often this may not be the case at all.  It could be that you aren’t creating the space for him to feel safe showing his emotions to you in the first place.  Jenny wrote me: “Hi Katarina, I

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He’s Not Ready To Commit After Eight Years, What Should I Do?

You don’t want to be with a guy who questions his ability to stay committed to you because he’s being truthful to you and himself and you’d better believe him. And if after 8 years your relationship isn’t deepening, stop investing UNTIL he steps up. Here’s a situation with a client/reader: “Hi Katarina, Just purchased your book, in the middle of

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