How To Lean Back Successfully, Important Tips To Keep In Mind

June 19, 2022 Katarina Phang Leave a comment

Are you feeling so vulnerable because you’re so smitten? When you want something or someone so bad you’re already on the verge of losing it/him.

Recently a lady, let’s called her Christine, wrote her observation in the hyperactive free FB group (add yourself there to enjoy the interactions and discussions)

“So I’ve been following a lot of this advice on this page for YEARS. So much good advice, working on yourself, not chasing a man, and generally not acting like a spoiled brat. However, leaning back as much as we are told to do seems to send the message, I’m not interested and I play games.

I’ve taken an inventory from my man friends and family and this seems to be the consensus. I watch so many regular women in relationships and was like… did they pay hundreds or thousands of dollars to to a dating coach to get their man? Ha! I highly doubt it. Why was I so easily able to get a boyfriend before listening to dating coaches? Well I decided to be myself like I was before all this crazy advice took hold of my brain and confused the shit out of me. If I felt like texting after not hearing from him I did. When I wanted to ask him to come and hang out with me (after him consistently putting in the work for 3 weeks, paid for dates, texted me daily) I did. And guess what?? He didn’t run away.

He was stoked. And rather than losing another good one by “leaning back” I decided to do what comes naturally. Let’s all just be freaking NORMAL and treat men the way we want to be treated, not as a game but a real person with insecurities and fears around relationships just like we do. I’ll continue to do the work, let him lead, but also let him know through my actions, he is needed.”“

That sounds pretty legit, right apart from down the thread moments later she made this declaration:

The relationship is very new… so I’m not going to assume I’ve nailed it and that everything is smooth sailing from here on. My main concern of these groups is that we have made something very nuanced into something more black and white. Every relationship is different. And no I refuse to have a rotation. I know he isn’t dating around or trying to play the field. He’s been very clear he’s looking for a wife. He’s been celibate for the last two years, I’ve been celibate for the last year. I’m not scattering my energy because my life is much too full to put energy on men who don’t meet me at my vibration. I live in the Portland area very liberal… heavily vaxxed. It’s not adventitious to be on dating apps again scattering my energy. I need my energy to be clear and clean so I can invite someone of that same energy.”

Oh my, no wonder she lost her patience. She is hooked on a non boyfriend who in all probability is still exercising his options despite her belief/assumptions of monogamy/exclusivity while she decided to be loyal to him! Instead of adjusting to reality that this man is lukewarm or isn’t where she wants him to be like many neurotic women who ended in my care she assumed too many things about a man she barely knows that are simply false.

1. That quality men think negatively of women who don’t drop everything in their lives because they just met and dated these men casually without them having to earn their dedication and loyalty. This class will remedy that debilitating Oneitis:

2. That just because a man you date isn’t dating anyone else (which is a bold assumption to begin with that many of my clients often find as not accurate later on to their extreme dismay) he’s committed to you and won’t exercise his options should such opportunity arise (sorry the two aren’t even remotely related).

3. By laser focusing on a non committal casual lover you increase your chance of attracting him.

4. Assuming you know every little detail of other women’s relationships. You don’t know if these women marry masculine or feminine energy men, you don’t know how much these women for whatever reason have stayed in feminine energy or not or why they marry, and you have no idea if their relationships are even functional or toxic so making a bold statement based on anecdotal evidence or inaccurate assumptions isn’t going to prove anything.

As it has become obvious, she’s getting desperate and blaming leaning back as not natural or not working, not realizing or stubbornly refusing to accept that rotation is an INHERENT part of the entire principles of successful leaning back Unless you are Katarina Phang it’s very unlikely you will survive not leaning forward by dating one man at a time.

Now before we go further let me reiterate what Leaning Back is and Isn’t There is a misconception about the concept of leaning back among some women who are also my clients as Christine above that it is a game to trick a man to chase a woman instead of a way of being or second nature.

So in a nutshell, leaning back isn’t:

1. Being aloof and distant.
2. Not reciprocating.
3. Being scared to text at all.

Now re. texting first, that depends on why you need to text. Is it essential (to communicate something necessary, for example where he can find you on a date) or is it to alleviate your anxiety because he’s not reaching out enough? That makes a whole difference. Looking for validation from a guy in the form of leaning forward doesn’t work, it has been proven time and again by millions of women.

If you feel desperate to want to text him that is a sign right there for you to heed: he’s not as invested in you and the relationship as you are in him (and the relationship) and that is a KISS OF DEATH. Instead of feeling strangulated by the “leaning back edict” as something fake, look into why you are more attracted to him and he’s to you? That’s the problem that millions of women face so they ended in my care.

The air of desperation is why most men feel less and less attracted toward you.

Women who claim that have leaned back and it’s not working miss these 3 salient points:

1. You can’t create physical attraction in a guy so if they don’t find you adequately attractive physically (and it’s going to happen to every woman no matter how you look, you’re not every man’s cup of tea -and vice versa- and that is fine) they won’t pursue you leaning back or leaning forward. The good thing is you weed this type sooner than later compared if you do all the leaning forward and the heavy lifting (yeah they will enjoy the ride for a while till it’s time to move on to a greener pasture). Now I don’t think Christine’s guy doesn’t find her attractive. He does but he’s not committed to her yet and as such he’s not drawn to the natural desirer rhythm to stay close as committed men are to their women while by shutting her door to other men she has a hard time managing her emotional investment, as expected.

Problem is majority of women choose a man first and then aim at him! She obviously does, not realizing (or stubbornly resisting) Kat’s warning of this very common phenomenon.

Huge mistake. You can’t persuade a man to fall for you by doing/giving more. That’s masculine energy and will only work with feminine energy guys (if that’s the type you like then more power to you).

What works is a man has to choose you first and you respond yay or nay. If yay, then be responsive and follow his lead. And over time you can work toward the cultivation of emotional attraction with him that will make you indispensable in his eyes.

2. Many women still have expectations. They still don’t lean back because They do it as a strategy and of course with such grasping mind soon enough that will translate into impatience and frustrations. Leaning back is about connecting to our deepest essence as a feminine energy creature. Patience and humility is what leaning back is. That’s what attract masculine energy guys because of the principle of polarity. If you are bound by goals, that is not leaning back. That’s leaning forward all over again.

She obviously does expect the instant efficacy of leaning back while being anxious the entire time waiting around for him to reach out!! Never did I teach you that this approach will ever work!!!

Most women don’t understand this process and they’re bound to timelines so they take everything from surface level understanding and then blame the teachings when their expectations of timelines aren’t being met. First of all you have to let go of everything, every idea and conception of “should” to be able to lean back properly on the soul level. Second of all, if you don’t do the other advice that needs to go in order for you to be able to lean back naturally and be at ease at that, you can’t claim the principle doesn’t work!!

This is very counter intuitive, this class below will explain it you in such a manner that will soften you so much to become so divinely feminine.

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3. Expectations come from restless mind, the mind that always evaluates, judges, compares and never happy with what it has in the moment. When you understand process and how everything happens in its own divine timing through the process your mind naturally stops the grasping and over reaching. Then leaning back becomes 2nd nature because it’s the most natural state of being that doesn’t take any energy to sustain. So everything I teach is connected to everything else and you can’t take it as a separate item than picking it apart. That’s what assumptions and projections are. They’re INACCURATE because you haven’t covered the basics YET which means you need more time to process all this new information. Transformation takes ebbs and flows, and sometimes setbacks but that’s the necessary process to grasp the full picture of the teachings.

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There are 3 ways you’re getting into a relationship with a skewed mindset that makes it harder for him to deepen the bond with you:

Believing that relationship will save you from yourself meaning that will solve the inherent issue of not being contented in one’s own skin. Thanks to this you become so shaky when you see that your idealization of a romantic relationship creates so many upheavals when it’s being met with a reality that is not exactly as the expectations.
Being in love with the idea of a man: his potentiality instead of what you are seeing moment to moment and adjust to it.
Jealousy and possessiveness are a common factor that creates so much rockiness in the relating. A lot of women believe in the rigidity of the idea of loyalty because they don’t really believe in their own desirability.

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