Holiday Relationship Hell! You Will Survive!
Holiday season is a tough time for single people or those who are in “complicated relationship,” especially women since we always attach so much meaning to Holidays. But you will survive!
This will be my fourth winter holiday season in Katarina Phang’s Feminine Magnetism Group. I joined after purchasing her book He’s Really That Into You, He’s Just Not Ready. As a group moderator, I have witnessed all kinds of breakdowns and breakthroughs in this 2800+ member group over the years, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen as much anxiety and joy going on at the same time as I have this month.
Now that I think about it, Christmas did occur on a Full Moon this year, so perhaps it’s related. But the anxiety expressed in the group this holiday season is one that I will not soon forget. On one hand, we had at least NINE engagements this month, December 2015.
I should probably mention that we also had SEVEN engagements last month. This happens to brings the total of Kat’s engagements – this year alone- to 49. THIS YEAR ALONE.
So there was lots of happiness and joy and congratulations being expressed in the group. Women who had fretted over their men now were receiving engagement rings from the guy that brought them to the group, or to someone even better!
Earlier this year, one woman had even received two proposals from two different men!!! (Here’s her interview).
The women took the time to follow Kat’s teachings, and refocus on themselves, and shift happened! I am all about transformation, and when I see these women make incredible turnarounds in their romantic relationships, I am overwhelmed with joy.
But it IS the holiday season, and we ladies are also often fraught with anxiety at this time of year. Will he call? Is he spending time with HER? Should I get him a present? Will he propose? So there was a lot of uncertainty being shared in the group.
And then there were the break-ups. Going through a break up during the winter holiday season feels the worst, because everyone else seems so gosh darn happy.
Suffice it to say…there was a lot of romantic drama this month.
So while I’m glad that Christmas is over, I’m now keeping an eye on New Year’s Eve. That is the next big holiday that some women will struggle with. Many women use that holiday to beat themselves up, and I’d like to offer another option.
If you are focused on any kind of outcome with your guy this holiday season, then that means that you are not focused enough on yourself. Take the time to love yourself up, and pamper yourself extra when dudes screw up at this time of year. Make sure that your BFFs are on speed dial. Participate in RUTHLESS self-care and self-love. Make sure to offer gratitude for the blessings that you already have.
Most importantly, this is the end of the year, and time to release what (or WHO) is not working in your life.
So let 2016 be the year we let go. Let’s do this!
If you want to be Hard to Get and Easy to Lose, and get your guy to step up, check out Katarina’s audio classes.
Guest Blog Post by Carla Lynne Hall, Owner of DatingRelating.com