Why He Won’t Talk About His Feelings – He Doesn’t Feel Safe With You

So he won’t talk about his feelings and you are taking it all personal.  When you measure the success of your relationship on what he does or does not do, you won’t be happy. He sees your  requests for more of his feelings as controlling and pressure.  This doesn’t inspire him to open up more to you, but quite the

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He Can’t Step Up If You Keep Beating Him To The Punch

How to get him to step up if you’re the one who is rowing the boat?  You can’t.  Here’s the fact: most relationships that thrive always start with men who are more eager about the women than the other way around.   It’s true in my case and many other people I know.  The guys really “chase” and lead.  The

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Don’t Miss Katarina Phang’s First Teleclass: What Is Convenience Relationship And How Not To Fall Into This Trap

  Don’t miss my first teleclass ever next Thursday, June 13 at 5 p.m PST (mark this on your calendar) on “What Is Convenience Relationship And How Not To Fall Into This Trap.” I’ll be interviewing my boyfriend Joe who was once in this kind of arrangement himself (convenient to him, that was).  He’ll share how women often are the

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The Sex Is Off the Charts But How Do I Make Him Want Me More Than Just Sex?

sex before commitment

  Women have asked me how do I make him want me more.  This especially happens after they have sex with a man. The thing is, it’s not really what you do to make a man want you more, it’s more in what you don’t do.  Women that try to push the relationship to the next level after sex as

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He Says He Wants To Take It Slow, Is That A Cop-Out For Wanting To Sleep Around?

he says he wants to take it slow

If he says he wants to take it slow is he stringing you along while he has sex with other women?  What does it mean when he says he wants to take it slow?  Every man is an opportunity for you to practice.  You can use this as an opportunity to master your self control and a woman in control

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Should I Tell Him All My Feelings And Everything That Bothers Me With Feeling Messages?

should i tell him how i feel

The belief that we women need and are entitled to express anything and everything we feel anytime they arise is why many of us have problems relating with men.  What doesn’t help either is when women are being told to be “authentic” by expressing themselves anytime they want to and bring up whatever subject that comes up in their head or

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It’s Not About When to Have Sex in a Relationship, It’s About Whether Or Not You Are A Whole Package

whne to have sex

When you ask yourself: “when to have sex in a relationship?”, the question should be rephrased to: “do I want to have sex” and “for what reasons,” and “would I be okay with whatever outcome I might get out of this?”   Today I’d like to talk about sex and dating and the conundrum status it has acquired among so

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How To Have The Relationship Talk Or Should You?

how to have the relationship talk

If you are thinking how to have the relationship talk, consider letting a man bring up the talk and move the relationship to the next level. This is the most femininely romantic thing to do.  Allowing a man to lead is the key to a successful and happy relationship if being cherished as a woman is what you truly want. 

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He’s Not Ready To Commit After Eight Years, What Should I Do?

You don’t want to be with a guy who questions his ability to stay committed to you because he’s being truthful to you and himself and you’d better believe him. And if after 8 years your relationship isn’t deepening, stop investing UNTIL he steps up. Here’s a situation with a client/reader: “Hi Katarina, Just purchased your book, in the middle of

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How to Mirror a Man to Survive Unrequited Love

how to mirror a man

Katarina, your principles and tools on how to mirror a man work like a charm.  I feel like a woman in this relationship, something that is so totally new and alien to me.  A knight in shining armor truly exists.  I don’t think I can go back to the ways things were after learning all these things from you.  You

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