To Become a High Value Woman – Stop These Excuses
High Value Women are women who are in control of themselves, their life and their emotions. They don’t make excuses for others as justifications for less than good behavior. If you want to become a high value woman, you have to stop with the excuses.
We have all been there, in that place where we cared about or loved that one man that just wasn’t quite available to us. We would hold onto to the good parts of him, hold onto his words or good times where we felt so connected, yet ignore his actions or lack of actions. We undervalued ourselves.
When we undervalue ourselves, we can’t expect others to value us. When we accept behavior that is less than and then make excuses to justify said behavior, we are far from high value.
I remember a man I dated back in my 30s, I was crazy about him. When he was with me, he seemed pretty crazy about me too. In hindsight, he wasn’t crazy enough. He would go weeks without contact. He rarely called, yet his words told me a different story, yet in my head, I would make excuses for him. Below are some of the top excuses that we make for men that is not the behavior of a high value woman.
He Has Been Hurt or Cheated on in the Past!
This was the main one I used with the above mentioned guy. I remember slow dancing with him to the song The Rose as his tears fell on my shoulder. I was moved. Oh poor guy, no wonder he can’t trust me yet, no wonder he is distant. His ex wife cheated on him and left him for his best friend.
After that date, I didn’t hear from him for weeks, so I justified it away telling myself he would come around, he just needed time to get over his past.
I cringe now when I think about this. This man wasn’t coming around then or ever. I accepted his less than behavior, sporadic contact, late night calls, and last minute cancellations for way too long. i didn’t value myself, and the result was, he didn’t value me either.
When you become a high value woman, you realize the wounded souls of this world aren’t really someone to invest into in a romantic way (find out how to manage your emotional investment here, without it you’ll be bound to heartache).
He May Not Know I Am Interested, He Needs a Push
A High Value Woman Never Reminds a Man She Exists
So you haven’t heard from him in weeks, maybe even months. You tell yourself that maybe he doesn’t think you are interested. A little leaning forward won’t hurt. You text him, he answers, you suggest getting together, he accepts.
Newsflash here, a woman that values herself will not spend her precious energy reminding men that she is alive and interested. If a man isn’t making an effort to have and keep her in his life, she isn’t going to do his job for him. She simply can’t be bothered. She accepts that this man isn’t looking for the same thing and she moves on.
When you become a high value woman, you value yourself and your time and energy and you don’t spend it on people that aren’t spending it on you. If a guy isn’t making the effort, you don’t either, you love yourself more than this.
There are Four Components Of Melting His Heart, one of them is following his lead. If you are doing all the work while he’s happily sitting on his ass, you’re the one who leads and it never works unless you want a beta male.
I Understand Why He is Like He Is!
High Value Women Can Understand Without Accepting
A woman that doesn’t value herself uses this one. But I understand why he is the way he is. He had a rough childhood, and so forth and so on. When you become a high value woman, you do understand but that does not mean you accept it into your life.
Things like he has anger issues because he was abused as a child. He can’t show affection because he wasn’t raised in a loving house. He just can’t help his anger issues, his emotional detachment and so forth and so on. He can help it, he just chooses not to. You can also choose not to accept this person in your life.
A high value woman can have a deep understanding of others and their wounds and why they behave the way they do, yet she realizes when they can’t really add to her well being and she refuses to accept these people as significant people in her life. She values and loves herself more. She wants the best for herself always.
If you find yourself struggling with self control when it comes to men, you have not yet become a high value woman. You haven’t really experienced the depth of your own value. If men don’t step up in your life, treat you with respect, it’s almost always because you don’t step it up for yourself or treat yourself with respect. Men will value you about as much as you value yourself.Men treat you how you treat yourself.
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