A Divided Mind Is The Source of All (Relationship) Problems

Split Mind

Heal your divided mind and you will heal the division within yourself. When you heal the split, the mind dissolves. As the mind dissolves, problems dissolve. The projector is officially broken.

Life isn’t easy.  And if you don’t operate in life with a functional frame of mind life will even be doubly, triply or quadruply difficult.

A typically dysfunctional frame of mind is the one that sees everything through the lens of bad or good, right or wrong with very little room for shades of grey or nuances.

This mode of perception creates a lot of unnecessary tension and frictions in our lives.  And this is what being judgmental is all about in a nutshell: when we’re so stuck in one way of seeing things.  And judgment and inner struggle are one and the same.

We as a human race is conditioned to perceive according to societal dictates.  And while at some point this was pertinent to our survival, as we grow and evolve this basic make-up when not included *as well as* transcended will create our bondage.

Perception of right or wrong will create fixations and in turn place us in a reactionary mode because the natural predisposition of the ego mind is to establish what is right (or wrong) even when it’s not possible to do that 100% of the time with 100% accuracy and precision.

People who are fixated on a position that is believed to be absolute will have a very hard time not to react to anything they perceive as a threat to what is right in their mind.

Their mind has become so polarized it reacts violently to anything that is perceived as a threat to this fixed identity.

This is the matrix the vast majority of people live in: the matrix of a divided mind.

A divided mind is a hypnotized and an unconscious mind.  It’s also called a split mind.

The divided mind will thus fight itself. The very definition of schizophrenia is something we all can observe within ourselves.  It’s a phenomenon of a divided mind in action trying to kill its own reflections which arise from aspects of itself that get trashed, oppressed and disowned.

The process of disowning will be followed by projections because energy can’t be created nor destroyed.  It can only be transformed and channeled into the proper or improper outlets.

Divided minds will start creating blockages and leakages that poison every space they inhabit and in the process contaminate the entire ecosystem.  Needless to say societal issues stem from individual issues, from a collection of individual minds that are divided and unwholesome interacting and feeding into one another’s dysfunctions.

To know this, to be able to see this within yourself is what transcendence is.

To transcend is not to react on every movement of the mind but rather to observe in a detached fashion.  The mind will always judge, condemn, anticipate, distrust, reject, grasp and idealize.  Observing all these phenomena without fixating on a position is what an enlightened mind does.

An enlightened mind, thus, simply mirrors because it has lost its attachment to a self-concept that is maintained by a strong identification to a position.

Love Is A Healed Mind

An enlightened mind is a unified mind. The division or split has been healed. It only reflects, instead of projects. It functions as a mirror because the projector is broken.  The projector is the hypnotized mind with all the one-sided stories of the I.  It’s the mind that runs amok uncontrollably like a toddler without parental supervision or guidance.

Equanimity is when you feel dispassionate about either side of the arguments because both are simply noises that arise within your own field of awareness. Both are the pull and push you yourself experience within yourself. Both are two sides of yourself. You have seen both in yourself. That’s well-roundedness. That’s equanimity.

Those who look outside dream, those who look inside awaken.

When you become “the parent” of your own mind you will be able to manage whatever disturbances that will arise from momentary “loss of consciousness.”

Some of those disturbances are fear, anxiety, anger, resentment and all their derivative emotions.

In one of our Satsangs (soul nourishment) in the fan subscriptions, I dissected anxiety: why it is an attraction killer and how to self-sooth you when you plagued by its debilitating tentacles.

And removing these barriers is the focus of our upcoming Bali retreat on November 6-9.  Any sign up this month will afford you two-hour private coaching with me (valued at $998) that you can use before the event on top of the $300 discount that will expire on Sept 31.

And not only that, you will ALSO get my free LIVE class (that will also be recorded) on October 6 “Five Most Devastating Mistakes Women Make In Dating” valued at $107 with the retreat OR any minimum purchase of $67 between Sept 8 and 31. You just have to email me the receipt and I’ll send you the schedule.

Our events are highly transformational.  A lot of shifts and realizations that release tons of blockages and hindrances have been happening with each of our retreats the last 2 years (we have done 3 retreats and 1 one-day event so far).

Increased awareness result in more happiness and contentment with life, less friction, resistance and more inner peace.

Understanding of the nature of the mind is the heavy focus on my Coach Certification Program as well, currently with 4 spots let and at $500 off till Sept 31.  One can’t begin to unravel the issues and problems one or anyone else faces when the roots of those very problems aren’t even identified thanks to the state unawareness vast majority of people are in.

And the roots are embedded in the state of mind divided within itself.  Any coach who hasn’t transcended this state of mind is going to give very partial and inaccurate advice that not only that it doesn’t work, it will also further exacerbate the situations their clients are facing.

That is why I’m so passionate about coaching future coaches to have the level of discernment this profound self-discovery -and self-dissolution- has afforded a very minuscule number of people in the world (yes it’s so elusive to the vast majority of people, the matrix is THAT impenetrable).

Email me at kat@katarinaphang.com if you want to talk to me heart to heart about any of these programs, especially Bali retreat and the coach certification program  of what kind of opportunities they will create in every aspect of your life because the effect of these realizations is so far reaching.

Mind you we’re only 6 weeks away to our Bali retreat and 3 new ladies have signed up this week.  I still have 1 seat left for special deal you can’t turn down (hence email me please).

If you look at the stunning Ayodya resort & spa where we’re going to hole in for 4 days, you will understand why you want to be there.  We’ll have early morning or sunset sessions by the beach.

And even a yoga session or two by the beach.  Then we’re going to enjoy a performance dinner on Friday night, something you have to experience when you come to Bali.

The food is so tasty. The dances are magnetic. The people are uber friendly.  You’ll fall in love with Bali as I did.

And if you are citizens of these countries: North America, South America, Africa, Australia, Europe, Taiwan, Hong Kong, Philippines, India, Singapore you can also get additional 4 nights in another resort in IN EXCHANGE of attending their time share presentation.

So you simply can’t miss this event if getting into Goddesshood is what you aspire to become.

You’ll become such a powerful rare woman with my sacred teachings that any guy that finds you attractive will be so MESMERIZED by your divine presence.

And you’ll become one of my thousands of success stories just like this year’s recent engagements #43#44,  #46, #47 and #48!!

The focus on Bali retreat is to understand how living in the mind is what neuroses are.  The mind is misery, misery is the mind.  And you’re going to project that misery on people around you, especially your partner.

How so, you ask.

Because the content of the mind is simply thoughts of the past and the future.  The past is gone and the future hasn’t arrived yet.  Only the present moment is real and there is no mind needed in the present.

Huh? (I get it, you’re probably scratching your head now 🙂 ).

When the mind is dropped, the sense of time evaporates and fear and anxiety leave your body.  When you less and less rely on the mind, one day you’ll notice that the DOER has also disappeared.

There is no more you or anybody (a self-image or self-concept) inside of you.  Just this spacious lightness of being.

I call it EMPTINESS (well that word obviously has been used by so many sages before me).

Whatever you do, you do out of natural necessity and as such it is EFFORTLESS.  With no involvement of the mind, you have simply become an empty vessel.  You’re just a Witness, not knowing where life takes you yet you’re so magnetic and powerful without even trying.

You’re out of your Neuroses Zone and permanently dwelling in your Genius Zone where burnouts, stresses and depressions can’t happen.

Your energy is radiant cause it’s free of mental defilements which are the main and by products of the mind.

People -and men- are drawn to you like a moth to a flame.  And you’ll be a person for people to go for counsel (and yes I’ll teach all these in my Coach Certification Program).

Are you visualizing that?

Welcome to Goddesshood.  Men will worship the ground you walk on.  They’ll eat out the palm of your hand.

A goddess is nothing inside yet she’s everything she sees around her.  She’s nothing and everything, she is the embodiment of WISDOM and LOVE.

She’s mighty powerful indeed because she operates from the highest frequency of inner freedom in which she has NOTHING to lose and EVERYTHING to gain.

To teach this is to be IT first.  To be BOTH.

And I can teach you that, no doubt about it.

Can you actually visualize it?

When the mind disappears, division disappears.  The split has been healed.  What’s left is deep compassion for all.

What is left is LOVE.

A compassionate mind is a unified/healed mind.  A mind that sees everything in utter clarity because it’s no longer beholden to egoic agenda.

A mind that is no longer confused because it’s capable of seeing things as they are, not as the projection of the I-stories.

Nurture A Healed Mind

Isn’t it an appealing -if lofty- proposition, lovelies?  And if traveling or Bali isn’t in your card right now, I just did the 1st and 2nd day of the 3-Day Workshop on How to Love and Date Meditatively last and this week.  They both amount almost 3 hours.  I talked about what the concept of meditation is all about and what living meditatively entails or looks like.

The 3rd class will be next Sunday, Sep 29 at 2 pm EST and the topic is: How to Relate, Fight and Love Meditatively.

You really don’t want to miss this workshop. It will definitely expand your consciousness making you more functional in love and life in general.

Sign up on the link below. This workshop will guide you out of your head and access a new dimension of reality that very few people know how to do or that it even exists!

How to Date and Love Meditatively

And last but not least, if you’re a true Katarina Addict please be informed that we have 38 hours of teachings that are ready for you to lap up in the fan subscriptions with just $99/month and you can cancel anytime.  You get to listen to all the previous classes and attend the next one LIVE on Wednesday at 2 pm EST.  Get ready with your questions and I will dissect them for you.

You’ll get smarter and wiser with every class, your EUM or any guy who finds you attractive will melt in your divine feminine presence.

Katarina Phang’s fan subscriptions

Here’s list of topics of Satsang you can watch upon signing up (over 38 hours, yes 38 hours!!!!):

1. Attachment and How It Messes Up Everything, 60 mins

2. How Emotional Abuse Happens In Relationship and How to Stop It, 90 mins

3. When To Speak Up and How To Communicate In A Way that He Can Listen to and Make Him Love You Even More, 90 mins

4. Financial Sharing in Dating and Relationship, the Ideal and Reality of it, 60 mins

5. Trusting Yourself and Your Intuition, 80 mins

6. Abandonment, Fears, Anxiety and A Journey to True Inner Healing, 80 mins

7. What Is Cheating and How Cheating Happens and how to cheat-proof your relationship, 80 mins

8. Abandonment, Fears, Anxiety and A Journey to True Inner Healing part 2 with coach Dasha, 90 mins

9. How to Cultivate Emotional Attraction with Your EUM/Guy, 90 mins

10. Goddess Interview: Chiemeri, The Power of Thoughts, 60 mins

11. How to Create Magnetic Allure Thru Sex and Sensuality with coach Dasha, 140 mins!!

12. When Is Relationship Exclusive and What to Do When You’re An Exclusive with A Guy Who Doesn’t Act Like a Boyfriend, 90 mins

13. How to Create Magnetic Allure Thru Sex and Sensuality part 2 with coach Dasha, 80 mins!!

14. Seven Moves to Charm, Entice and Captivate your Man without Leaning Forward, 140 mins!!

15. How to Move On after a Breakup, And Attract Him Back in The Process If That’s What You Want, 100 mins

16. How to Lean Back and Be High Value Even When You Feel He’s Friend Zoning You, 60 mins

17. How to Create and Build Solid Trust in a Relationship with Coach Dasha, 90 mins

18. Will Leaning Back Work Now After Leaning Forward for 10 Years?, 90 mins

19. How to Merge Two Families and Handle Conflicts with His Kids, 90 mins

20. How to Forget and Forgive After He Cheated On You or Should You, 90 mins

21. How to Survive and Thrive After A difficult Break Up with Coach Dasha, 90 mins

22. Why Anxiety is An Attraction Killer that Causes Him to Become “Emotionally Unavailable” and How to Self-Sooth When You’re Anxious, 90 mins

23. How to Handle Your Triggers and Not to Walk On Eggshells with Your Guy/Partner, 90 mins

24. How to Successfully Navigate Conflict and Highly Charged Situations with Coach Dasha, 80 mins

25. How and Why Your Sob Stories Make Your Relationship So Rocky, 90 mins

And here are the upcoming classes every Wednesday, Saturday or Sunday at 3 or or 6 pm EST (we’re still adjusting the timing to adjust to best time that most can attend):

26. Goddess Interview: Laura, How She Heals Her Anxiety and Depression and Lost 168 lbs with Journey Inward, October 2

Again, only $99/month and you can cancel anytime. No down payment of $2,000 and $500/month some vanity/newbies coaches with no credentials twist your arm to pay. It’s like therapy with a Buddha for less than $10/hour. There is simply NO EQUIVALENCE out there in terms of QUALITY, RESULTS and AFFORDABILITY. It’s so DIRT CHEAP,  ladies….seriously sign up!!

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