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Ladies, are you tired being strung along in a label-less relationship because he’s not ready or is not sure if he ever wants to be in relationship? You can’t get out either because you are emotionally hooked on him? Do you miss and crave his presence all the time you end up chasing him…and AWAY? Or are you getting nauseated that every time you meet a new guy he says he doesn’t want a relationship yet he keeps coming back and pursuing you?
Are you left so confused and vulnerable by him blowing hot and cold and giving you all sorts of conflicting messages? Does he display signs of emotional unavailability that drives you absolutely nuts? Do you feel that everything is on his terms and the more you want to be with him, the less and less you hear from him and the farther and farther away he’s pulling away?
Do you know what makes or how to make an emotionally unavailable man fall deeply in love if there is such thing?
If so, you are not alone! Millions of women face the same predicament every day and they are wasting precious time and energy pining for a guy who may never commit to them. It is painful and humiliating.
Every day I deal with women with the same issues, over and over again. They email me privately or ask questions on my Facebook Wall and heated discussions on the subject will start to ensue. Personally, I’m dealing with the same situations myself from time to time.
(UPDATE: It’s been over a year since I first published this ground-breaking ebook. I have talked and helped so many women ever since and I hear RESULTS every single day. The book has been recently updated and expanded with new material so I can share many of the experiences that my clients/readers report back to me. I’m planning to keep updating it and adding new bonuses. If you buy now you will be grandfathered with the current price of $47. After further update and more bonuses added, it will be sold at $67 (still a very reasonable price for the rare kind of CUTTING-EDGE advice you won’t hear anywhere else). So COMMIT NOW and turn your relationship around. And please don’t tell me the ebook is only 96 pages after you purchase it because the bonuses and the ongoing support in my private groups are parts of the program. If you want 200+ pages of JUNK ADVICE, you can get it anywhere else. It’s not about the number of the pages that can easily be propped with fillers, it’s either the advice works or not. And mine totally works like a charm.)
In fact I was a man chaser many years ago. I was young and naive. I thought I could control a man’s interest by showing him how assertive I was by relentlessly chasing him! I could never attract a masculine man with my aggressiveness, no matter how much initial attraction he had for me in the beginning. I always managed to turn him off.
I even managed to really humiliate myself one day when I was stranded in a foreign country for a week because I was so impatient and wanting to be in control of the courting (instead letting the guy do that) I practically invited myself to go there to visit him.
He made a convenient excuse as soon as I arrived that he couldn’t see me right away because he was engaged in “a very important and emergency matter” somewhere “up north.” I was in limbo for the whole week waiting around and kept checking my emails expecting a word from him. We did meet and two hours later he disappeared again into thin air.
Sounds eerily familiar to you now, doesn’t it?
Truth is men don’t like to be controlled or chased. It’s a total TURN OFF, no matter how gorgeous and sexy you are. They will like it for about five minutes before slowly but surely pulling away. If you have been in that situation more times than you care to remember, you have to keep reading because your life will never be the same again after you listen to what I’m going to tell you!
Then one day -through much soul-searching, trial and tribulation- I just figured out what really works in triggering intense attraction in men. One day I deciphered the one key I need that unlocks the secret to a man’s HEART. This is WHY I could never be with a guy I was truly attracted to: the masculine-energy type.
This book is a culmination of all my reflection, work and personal journey with men that have been brewing for years and years, especially after my extremely excruciating split from my ex husband. It’s time to share all I know with all of you, lovely ladies!
Imagine how much time and heartache you will save by knowing all these things at a very young age if you are still in your 20′s or younger! The title might indicate emotionally unavailable men (EUM) as the main target, but the principles in this book WORK WITH ANY MAN. If you can deal with EUM, you can deal with ANY man.
This is the ultimate guide to dating emotionally unavailable men and how to turn that around to your advantage. Hence, this is in fact the ultimate guide to dating for modern women period.
In fact, my boyfriend whom I met right after I published this book (it’s surprising how the universe works, right?) is so emotionally available and we have been having the most functional and most fulfilling relationship of our lives. He tells me everyday how much he loves me and how much I mean to him. He’s EVERYTHING I want in a man and vice versa. It takes one to know one.
That’s what the full understanding of key principles to attraction as propagated in this program will prepare and bring you as well. And I call this a PROGRAM because your journey won’t end when you read the last page of the book. I’ll be by your side and personally guide you through emails as well as my exciting private groups. You won’t find the same ongoing after-sale service with any other program out there. I am COMMITTED to your personal growth.
And only when you have truly GROWN as a person, you can truly be happy in a relationship and you will attract the SAME QUALITY of men as well because you will be STRONG, SMART and CONFIDENT enough to walk away from any man and a relationship that doesn’t serve you. No more pining. No more prolonged suffering and heartbreak. Instead he’ll be the one who YEARNS to be with you because you are a HIGH-VALUE WOMAN that any man seeks for commitment.
When I first met my boyfriend I knew early that he would fall for me so deeply. After my emotionally unavailable man (EUM), I just was at the point that I knew any guy who found me attractive would be so hooked on me. That’s why he rushed to claim me because he knew if he didn’t some other guy would. And it’s not because of my looks. It’s my character and personality. It’s because I’m emotionally free and not needing anyone to complete me. I don’t need any man to be other than himself. Intuitively I knew what worked with men thanks to my EUM. As I said, if you can deal with EUM, you can deal with ANY man. Any man after him will be easy. I now have this one-million dollar secret for women everywhere in the world. So again, don’t run away from these men. School yourself…just like I did and stick to the principles I teach in the book. You won’t hear this from any other coach but my method is proven. It works like magic.
I hadn’t even officially launched it when a few women who were my loyal fans were already signing up to read my book. And they all reported something positive just instantly with their men.
Their men began to chase them again.
If you see the pictures below, The women who come to me are mostly very attractive women. If you think about it, how can men shun them, right? It shows that men are very forgiving about looks. It’s not your looks that makes them hooked on you. It’s your feminine essence, inner beauty and the energy that you brings out. Raise your energetic frequency and you will attract any man you like (so long he finds you physically attractive).
This book will reveal the secret how a man connects to you emotionally. Emotional attraction is about triggering a man’s masculinity. And you can only do that when you are strong in your femininity as well.
ENGAGED 5 Months after a breakup, Thanksgiving 11/28/2013…Married 12/21/2013!!!
Ok, I had just broken up with my bf for the 2nd time in a year and half when I came across Kat’s book. I bought the book and it was as though Kat had written this book after watching his and my relationship. I realized all the things I had done that actually pushed him away when I was trying to pull him closer.
The number one thing and pretty much combines all other things in a nutshell was my expectations of him and how I thought the relationship should be once we had moved to that level. Although I was never the one to initiate any serious talk or moving our relationship further at any time in our courtship. He was quick to “claim” me and move the relationship to the next level. However I was just as quick to move my “expectations” to the next level. When he didn’t meet them I was quick to let him know this. And I basically pushed him away.
We continued to have contact for the next 4 months. And I began to practice Kat’s teaching. It wasn’t always easy, sometimes I would revert back to my old ways, but I just kept on trying. I really began to focus on myself and less on him. I got a new job which kept me very busy, joined a gym and starting making goals for myself and my future.
I completely leaned back (which was easy since I was so engulfed in my own life). I mirrored him the way Kat teaches when he did reach out to me. He kept coming around. I didn’t date others at first, although he was, I just wasn’t interested. I had to force myself to date others after a while.
Although they were few and casual I did start forcing myself back out into the dating world. I actually had to turn him down a time or 2 because I already had plans. This was not something he was used to and it really stirred him. This didn’t last long before he stepped back up to claim me.
I didn’t give in at first. I kept my distance but enjoyed the attention he was showering on me. But I didn’t give in completely until he proved that he was serious. Once he said he was going to move back in I stopped dating others.
Then I joined Kat’s journey inward class. Because even though I had mastered the leaning back and mirroring, I had really pushed down my feminine side, and I didn’t even realize it. So now I am learning to cultivate my feminine side.
All his friends and family tell me they have never seen him so happy. He kept mentioning marriage but never actually proposed and I never said anything when he would talk about it. I just smiled or kissed or hugged him.
His parents came in town this past week and his mom had a ring that she wanted to give me. I was truly speechless, I really didn’t know what to say, so I didn’t say anything I just looked at it. Later when they left I put the ring on his dresser. He teased me that I couldn’t have an engagement ring if I hadn’t been proposed to.
Then he pulled me in his arms and said “Marry me, I want you to be my wife, I want you to be Mrs. Warner”, and I said yes. Of course. Turns out they had planned this all along and he was waiting for this ring to propose to me. Sooooo that’s my story.
He just walked in the room and said, “When are you going to marry me, how long are you going to make me wait?” So I guess I need to go give him some attention. Thanks Kat, I will never stop reading your material and working on myself.” ~ Kristie Graham, Louisiana
Shared in the group 4/30/2014, ENGAGED!
“Ok I’m freaking out. My boyfriend proposed! Great you’re thinking. What’s wrong? We’ve known each other 6 months. Four of those as an exclusive couple. Too damn soon! This from a guy I was chasing and leaning forward so much that I almost chased him away until I found this group. I suggested we revisit this the end of the year. When it’s been longer. But now I’m wondering what the heck is wrong with him to want to marry me so fast! Am I creating a problem where there’s none or am I justified in being a bit freaked out?
I turned him down!! I said propose again after a year. Yeah I freaked out. I just don’t want another failed marriage and it seems rushing into something so fast wouldn’t help.
And it’s not that I don’t love him very much. And this has been the easiest relationship, with the least amount of friction I’ve ever been in. I just need to see that continuing a bit longer to know 100% this has a chance of working for long term, since I really do want to minimize as much as possible the chance of another divorce. So it’s not that I don’t have the feelings, I just want to make sure no crazy comes out in the next few months. lol” ~ Chrissy, California
And on 5/1, 2014
“Update. Called him just to talk things through. I told him I didn’t want him to think I didn’t love him or didn’t want to marry him. Basically just scared of failure again. We agreed to a longer engagement and are getting married on January 16, 2015. Nothing big just a simple trip to Reno or Vegas. Lol here’s the text I got after our talk. I’m the blue. Ignore the boring food stuff lol so guess I’m engaged now!!!!!!”
Shared on 6/1, 2014
“I have been (re)claimed! He apologized over and over for breaking my heart, and promises to never let me go again, saying “I’m ready to commit myself to you properly this time.” and “But you, are all mine again. My lover, pin-up and confidant. My Jillian.” Not to mention he bought tickets to ACL in October because he knew I’ve always wanted to go! Looks like I’m going to Texas in 5 months!
Thank you Katarina Phang! You are amazing!”
Here’s the progression with Jillian who pushed her guy away with her neediness and masculine energy so he broke up with her. She began practicing my method for a couple of weeks, and on May 27 she wrote: “Good morning ladies! My ex has really been stepping up this week, and he’s BEGGING to see me tonight. He’s chasing me again, and if course I’m jumping up and down internally because I’m still in love with him. Well, since I am technically single, I have every right to date around. I’m on eharmony to build up a rotation, and there is a guy that I exchanged numbers with yesterday and I feel guilty about it, like it’s unfair to my ex, but he broke up with me and hasn’t mentioned reconciling (yet). How do you ladies deal with this nagging feeling?”
Then on May 28, she updated: “This leaning back and embracing our inner goddess is amazing! Thank you, Katarina! I am so happy right now that I have to share!
When my ex and I agreed to start seeing each other again last week (Friday), we set up terms and one of them was we would see each other every 2 weeks (his rule, and I went along with it. Follow his lead, right?). Since Friday he’s been texting me with sweet words. Sunday he said that he realizes he is a lucky guy and that “It’s certainly a connection like none other [he’s] ever had.” He even sends goodnight texts with kisses, something he hasn’t done since the first month we started dating. Monday night he wished I didn’t have to work on Tuesday and would really like to see me. I let him beg for a bit, and then agreed to see him last night. He began texting me the minute he woke up Tuesday morning, asking what time I’m going to be coming over, and that he’s really looking forward to seeing me.
Wait, is this the same guy that told me 3 weeks ago that he wasn’t ready for a relationship? Took all our pictures down on Facebook? And completely cut me out of his life without any hope of getting back together? And now he’s CRAVING for attention from me? Whoa… that’s a complete 180, IMO!
Back to the texts… I told him to pick a time for me to come up, and he said anytime since he has no plans. And starts talking about what we’re going to do for dinner! I agree to 7pm, and he replies that I can come earlier if I want. I teased him and asked if he wanted earlier, to which he replied, “I just want to spend some nice time together.” Well, even though I wanted to be there right when I’m off from work, I stuck to my guns and waited until close to 7pm to show up. Earlier in the day, I posted on Facebook that there was a concert I wanted to go to next week.
Within 5 minutes of me showing up at his place, he mentions the concert and asks me if I want to go with him. I tried so hard to not have my jaw drop to the floor, or bring up the fact that one of the rules of our terms for FWB was no relationship stuff like we used to do… we really bond over concerts and music… but heck, he even offered to pay! When we were together, we had plans to go to San Diego over that weekend, and he brought that up, and kept saying he was sorry. I shrugged it off with a smile, and never allowed him to know that I’m still a little hurt that those plans were cancelled (I really love San Diego!), but the breakup was his decision!
The rest of the night went very smooth… he reached for me and pulled me to snuggle with him on the couch, he cooked dinner, and was like the man I fell in love all over again, including lots of kisses! But never once did I bring up our past relationship or pressure him for anything. I leaned back and allowed him to have control of how the events of the night panned out. One thing I know he was never comfortable talking about was his ex-wife, and he brought it up when I walked out of the bathroom and he was texting on his phone. He mentioned that he’s finally getting her off the car insurance and phone bill. I didn’t say anything, but smiled and gave him a kiss. (I honestly did not know what to say!) When it was time for bed, he held me the entire night and wouldn’t let go until I left in the morning to start my day. He seemed a bit sad that I was leaving so early!
But wow… In the last month of my relationship with him, I had stopped receiving this much affection until last night. Of course I want to bring up if there is any idea of us getting back together because I’m in love with this man, but thanks to Katarina, I know better. For now, I have to sit back, let him lead, and just keep myself busy with my life.”
Shared on 2/4, 2014
“I am ENGAGED!! He sure was an EUM!!! He was damaged by his son’s Mom and hid behind his work (construction worker whom you guys swore he was married).. lol..
I just kept loving him.. when I leaned back, it rustled his feathers and he pouted… so I kept loving him the best he knew how, but put a few in rotation to kill my own anxiety. Well, the ones I did rotate knew about him (as he was my boyfriend) and gave me wonderful male insight and even encouraged me to stick by his side. This weekend he said he’s madly in love with me. Today HE discussed marriage… and tonight he proposed.
I think what did it for me: a male friend told me: “There is nothing else you can do.. if you love him the best you know how, trust that you left an impact on his heart and he will be back” shifted my energy tremendously.
Kat, I remember going crazy trying to find your book!! I visited every book store for days.. finally I Inbox you.. but unfortunately couldn’t afford the book or classes, so you tagged me into the group.. best thing that could have happened to my relationship. At first I was like what the hell.. but I knew I had to try something different because I felt like I was losing at the game of love.. thanks ladies and love you Kat…… ((hug))” ~Esther, Illinois
Shared on 1/28/2014
Kellie is one of my most committed clients. After breaking up for a second time within a year and her doing my programs the last 7 months, they got back together the end of January and their relationship is stronger than ever.
“Tonight: he laid right back to where we left of finally. He said it. I love you. In the most sincerest way. How about that……. you want nothing. You get everything.
Lol. I can’t believe it. It took all year long. But so far it’s a night and day change.
I now support his hobbies. He does all this high end desert racing I had zero interest in. It’s very expensive and I would make comments. He was very defensive about it. That pissed him off. Now, I encourage it. It makes him happy. He asked my opinion about this race in Mexico he was considering. Told me the cost. I replied he should do it. That was a good opportunity someone offered him to use their car. And the price wasn’t bad. He was in an accident in this same race last summer. Very bad. So I hated it. But, he’s going to do it anyway. So, just go with the flow.
And you should see how he dives right into it with this honey. OMG. It’s like math as you said, 2 plus 2 equals 4.
I swear I wish you could have seen his face. He was in SHOCK. I had to tell him I was serious when I said “this is a good opportunity”” ~Kellie, New York
As shared on 2/10/2014
“Hi Kat, I just came back from a fantastic weekend getaway with my new man. Every moment was wonderful. He was very loving and attentive, concerned about meeting my every need and desire, making sure I had a fantastic time and I did. It’s hard to believe that we met only a short time ago and that he has already claimed me. Only two short months ago it felt like I would never meet anyone I could have such a deep connection with, but I see now that all the hard work I have been doing has paid off.
I discovered your ebook back in October, after breaking up with my EUM. I was devastated by the end of that relationship and wanted to know how I could get him back. More importantly, I recognized that a pattern was playing out in my love life and knew I needed to change it. I couldn’t understand why I kept dating the same guy wearing different pants. Reading your book made me see the relationship with my EUM very clearly, especially my role in its demise. I had read David Deida but never understood how masculine-feminine energy dynamics were playing out in my relationships specifically. I thought I was such a feminine woman because I wore high heels to take out the garbage. I saw myself as accepting, warm and receptive, yet I had no idea how much I was leaning forward with my anxious energy, my mothering and smothering, my over giving and overall over-functioning in the relationship.
Your group first introduced me to the concept of raising your frequency, and that you basically attract what you are. I’d had no idea that the reason I kept dating these emotionally unavailable guys and had even been married to one was because I had this characteristic in myself. Just this simple recognition was enough for me to start making profound changes within myself.
I won’t lie–I worked really hard. I spent a couple hours every day on the process and the various exercises and learnings that went along with it. I took the Journey Inward and Leaning Back workshops, which were invaluable steps on my journey–especially Leaning Back, as it showed me exactly what actions I could take to turn things around.
I recall that in one of the classes you referred to me as one of your most committed students and I believe I was. I knew I had to change but also recognized that if I changed my behavior superficially the results would not be long lasting. I had read a lot of self help and relationship books in my life, but nothing ever worked for me until I started doing deep inner work.
Between October and December I cried every day, but I kept working on myself even when my mind seemed stuck in the same obsessions about my EUM. I knew I had to keep going.
I tried to get out there and date but no one remotely suitable was showing up. Most of the men who were messaging me were at least twenty years younger, looking to hook up–which I wasn’t into. I kept working while staying open to opportunities at the same time; I just didn’t go looking for them. One night I checked my online profile and there was a message from a man that really grabbed my attention. I felt this little pop while I read his profile. It was as if he had written it especially for me. We met a few days later and the connection was instantaneous.
Ever since my divorce from a controlling, domineering alpha male, I have been attracted to guys who are more of a sensitive artist type, or who work in helping professions like counseling or teaching. They are givers and pleasers, and have made it easy for me to step in and try to drive the bus. Now that I’m much more grounded in my feminine energy, I have been able to lean back and let my new man do all the planning and executing, without my trying to do his job for him. It’s been so liberating and I feel very feminine and cared for in his presence.
This man is the most emotionally available man I have ever known, and I know he is in my life now because I am more emotionally available now as well. I recognized what was causing me pain in my life and began healing it. The old me would have run for the hills when he started expressing his feelings or tried to claim me so fast–I would have thought him as needy and clingy. He’s not, he just really likes me and let’s me know. Being with him has made me feel cherished and adored for the first time in my life and to see that I deserved more than what my EUM was giving me.
It’s early in my relationship, so who knows how it’s all going to turn out, but I am confident if that this man isn’t the one, someone even better will come along. I’m no longer the crumb grabber, dependent on approval from a man to make me feel whole. I have everything I need within me to attract a great guy and keep him investing in me. Thanks Kat, for your great group and the support you give your clients to become their best feminine selves.” ~Daisy, Vancouver
As shared in the ladies group, 12/27/2013
“Hey ladies, I am so happy… He messaged me and said he can’t live without me anymore. He loves me a lot and said sorry for what he had done. I am so happy we are together again but it can’t be possible without you Katarina and all the group members. Thank you so much for helping me out.” ~Salma, India
“Michael made this comment on Facebook the other day
“That woman, Paula is something I’ve never experienced!! Best girl ever!”
While we have known each other 30 years and growing friendship to be best friends the last 5 or 6, I never considered him romantically. I think he may have considered me for a little fun though.
I truly believe that is due largely to Katarina Phang and her guidance and teachings along with all the amazing woman (and few men) in this group that guided me to change to the best girl ever!!!
Thank you everyone for your support, advice and guidance, not to mention putting up with and reading all my never-ending posts!!
Much love and peace to you all!
Paula, Newport Beach”
As shared on 1/25/2014
“Guess who just got claimed!! My EUM and I went on a date last night and he told me he wanted me to be his girlfriend, to be “his” only and no guy can get near me. He asked if I had been on dates since we started dating and I told him yes. He was really jealous asking if I got physical with them.
He said he’s crazy about me and will never let me go, that me being busy and not around as often as I was caused him to get scared he might lose me. We were incredibly open with each other about what we wanted out of life with no pressure on him but given the age difference I told him I would eventually wanna get married and have kids.
I said he’s free to do what he wants but that I didn’t wanna get hurt if we didn’t have the same intentions in mind given he has already had kids whereas I haven’t.I told him I didn’t wanna hurt him intentionally or not and I don’t wanna end up hurt so that’s why I wanna start the relationship without any assumptions or expectations. He said he still wants all those things and that he wants me to be his “forever”.
We had a very sweet and affectionate night and I’m so happy we were both finally able to get these things off our chest and realize we both want the same things in life and within a relationship.
He said he’s never felt so supported and accepted with anyone else but that it took him awhile to step up because he was worried about me and what people would say about the age difference and also fear of getting rejected by me down the road given i’m much younger. He could hardly let me go at the end of the night.
And now I am officially off the market thanks to Kat’s teachings. I couldn’t have gotten here without all of you wonderful ladies advising me along. Thanks so much! I plan on sticking around and continue learning with everyone here;))” ~Sheryl, California
“Here’s my update: I’m off the market. =] Yes, I’m in a relationship and best of all, I was the one “caught”.
Thank you Kat for everything you taught me but most of all, thank you for placing a mirror in front of myself that allowed me to see just how beautiful and worthy I am.
The man that I’m with is very masculine and quite the alpha. He can pick me up with one arm and finds my quirks adorable. He looks after me. I feel protected and cared for. It’s an amazing feeling.
So all you ladies, please join Kat’s programs and truly listen to what she has to say. There is a great healing that takes place.
Kat, if I could hug you, I would.
All my love,
“Status Update? He asked me to move in with him. =] He’s a very masculine man who knows what he wants and goes after it.
I said yes however, we both agreed that I’m going to slowly move in. He said this was the first time he’s ever done this so it’s a little foreign to him.
Him: “You know, I’ve never had a woman sleep over. I wasn’t too big on cuddling. It was more about sex. But with you… I don’t know. I really like waking up next to you.” *
His place looks like a bachelor’s pad. Go figure!
And a major part of my thanks goes to you. Oh gosh Kat — I showed him some of your recent posts and he was intrigued/ he really liked them! He agreed completely about the whole not forcing a man to commit.
Him: “That’s true. A man wants to feel like HE picked the girl.”
He literally said to me: “I want to take care of you.”
And he does.
He still lets me have my independence and freedom (and I do the same) it’s a mutual respect, trust, and communication thing we have going on here. Speaking of which, he really liked your post on trust.
Being a masculine man, talking about relationships isn’t his cup of tea but because it’s so important to me — he even gives male insight to my girl friends and their relationships.”
Christine moved to NZ to be with a guy who turned out to be not ready for anything serious. Here’s her recent story after practicing my method, as shared in the ladies group at 12/7/2013: “Ladies, so many things happening lately! I got caught between a rock and a hard place, and ended up having to move in with my ex again because I had no place to go. The first couple days I moved in with him, he started making references like I was his girlfriend, and it left like we were headed somewhere….but nothing was said. I still had to assume that he didn’t want to be in a relationship and so I didn’t bring up any conversation with him and was just trying to stay present. But then he started to pull away and I got frustrated with his mixed message. So I started to pull back from him.
I started to avoid his affection more and one night he even found out that I went out with another guy while he was at work. The guy was very nice and we had a good date. He wants to see me again, and couldn’t bare not kiss me at the end of the date.
I got home and Tyler saw how I was dressed and asked if there was anything he needed to worry about with this guy. He asked me to watch a movie with him, his hand on my leg…and eventually we were starring at each other. He asked me what I was thinking and eventually we were pulled into conversation.
He said he realized I had been pulling away the last couple of days and he wanted it to stop. He also said that he recognized the energy of wanting to know where our relationship stood has come up, but he just thought it would be nice to let it flow naturally.
We talked about so much that night, it ended pretty sensitive because along with him telling me he wants me and loves me, he also wants the freedom to have sexual experiences with anyone and not be cut off from anything – it makes him feel less free. He has sort of a rampant sexuality that he’s trying to understand and get a hold of, including bi sexuality. Anyway, I was being accepting. But I was so crushed realizing that I needed to let go of him, get out of this house, and figure out my next move in life because that doesn’t work for me.
I realized all the reasons why I wouldn’t want to be with a man who didn’t want all of my magnificence. I deserved so much better than that.
He took me to breakfast this morning and as we sat down, he said “Our relationship has been a hot topic for everyone lately.” He mentioned he noticed the attitudes in his friends changing towards him, some of them in frustration about his behavior with me. I ended up basically telling him that my desire for him was starting to die. I told him what I deserved. I also told him my frustrations and relatively negative opinions of his behavior in the most kind way I could.
I told him if he is willing to give up our love for the chance of a random fuck than he’s not the person I thought he was, and I needed to redefine my idea of him if that’s who he is. I deserve to be claimed by someone who wants all of me, and I do not want an open relationship. He mentioned that he was hurt because he was trying to open up to me and redefine a new relationship once I moved into the house – he just wanted it to progress naturally and didn’t want to have to talk about it…but then I went out with another guy and he didn’t know what to make of all of it.
I told him that I broke down yesterday because of the decision I potentially had to make. I expressed how torn I was because he is my family here, including all of his friends…and how we’ve been all becoming closer since I moved back in this week. I said I don’t want to be anywhere else but with family here, it feels too lonely any other way. I’ve been living away from them for months and it’s not the experience I want. I expressed the pain I was having in being torn between going home – or staying – and how if I was going to stay it likely meant I had to move away from him and all of this support.
Somewhere mid conversation, he had a huge smile and asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. He said you don’t have to answer now, and I didn’t. But a bit later, he said “So what do you think, do you want to be my girlfriend? You always were my girlfriend, we just had to take some time to figure some things out.” I ended up saying yes I feel hopeful, and grateful for this creation of mine.
Thank you Universe and Kat. I must admit though, there is still a slight residue of fear in the air for both of us just because it’s a total new angle we are taking. We both know we don’t want to make the same mistakes. He wants to learn to trust that his love will be received and not shoved in his face. He wants to trust he’ll be respected and seen, and wants to lead. And I want to trust that he can lead, that he won’t want to run off in mind fantasies with someone else.
He mentioned he needed to figure out something to do about his sexual urges. He has been open about them with me, which makes me feel more comfortable than keeping it a secret. He also said that most of the urges he had when we were together we mostly fueled by his unfulfillment in our relationship. Most of all, I want to trust in myself that I can nurture myself even if I get triggered and show up for him and myself happily.
I’m hoping that as I stay in alignment with my feminine essence and cultivate a happy, relaxed relationship his urges will decrease. Does anyone have experience with something like this? Does anyone have some words of encouragement as I open my arms to this new relationship? I really want to make it magic this time.” ~Christine, Auckland
10/9/2013, as shared in the ladies group:
“Hi ladies: update on my situation. So he filed his divorce. He said” I love you and need you to be patient with me through divorce process, I’m not letting you go, you’re mine and I will not tolerate you seeing other men”
He stayed the night holding me and kissing me all night and he’s taking me to the airport this week.
His wife wanted a divorce too, they’ve been done for couple of years now, just dragging it you know.
He’s in love with me I know but this is a tough road being patient for him to finalize the divorce. Now he said he has to look for a place and move out by the end of this year. Amicable divorce both parties wanted it long time ago.
But thanks for your advise, opening up to him and telling him my fears and concerns by being vulnerable helped. Thank you!
I asked him what made him fall in love and he said “I just enjoyed my time with you, you had no agenda like most other women, you were always in the moment just going with the flow, no expectation, never pressured me with anything” so I was exactly how you teach women to be and that’s what made him fall in love.
I was like that because I wasn’t really taking this relationship seriously so I was totally laid back and he was pursuing all the time.
Except the last couple of months I started complaining and having expectations and giving him a hard time but he was already attached by then.
So I believe what you teach works!” ~ Marianne, Los Angeles
We have just finished the Leaning Back and Cultivating Feminine Mystique Workshop when that news arrived. Katarina’s ladies are being told all the time how different they are from other women. That’s why men are stepping up or committing effortlessly, when they see that they can’t afford to lose a RARE woman like that. And I teach on how to become that woman. My method works like a charm ’cause I understand what moves both men and women on the most fundamental level. It’s psychologically savvy.
10/8/2013, as shared in the ladies group:
“Update: My EUM and I had a nice weekend cooking for friends and had a great time. Tonight I came home and he was outside with one of his good friends. After his friend leaves he tells me had a good time with me this weekend and tells me he has fun with me now. I asked him what’s changed and he replies he’s not sure but I seem less up tight and more open. He asks me what are we doing here and asked if I wanted to give it a try again. I said sure lets try and if it doesn’t work . . . He interrupts me and says no it’s gotta work. He tells me he asked all his friends including the one that was over to ask them what they thought and they all agreed he was a better man with me in his life. I was smiling on the inside as I realized the quick shift doing the inner work Katarina teaches made in this relationship. Tonight he’s in bed with me and not the couch.
He’s my ex, well was my ex. We have two children and we have been together off and on for 12 years. We had a terrible break up over a year and a half ago. He was staying on my couch platonically for the past two months and convinced himself we were done..LOL.
He lost his well paying job at the same moment I found out I was pregnant with our 2nd child. He turned towards the bottle I turned super critical and emasculating. I moved out of our shared home and we spent a year apart.
I love him and I’m enjoying each day as it unfolds the less expectations and pressure I bring to the situation the easier and happier he and I become. Let me tell you if Katarina method works on him it will work on any man. Lol! ~ Tracy, Arizona
Tracy is also a participant of my hit very affordable group coaching Journey Inward: The First Defining Steps Toward Feminine Magnetism, which I highly recommend after you familiarize yourself with my method.
From Natalie, 7/10/2013
“Omg! Kat! I just want to hug you right now!!! My EUM actually CALLED, which never happened before, and told me he’s purposely was not giving my watch back so he could see me again! And he asked if I want to go to Dave & Busters on Saturday! Whaaaat??? That’s just soooo unbelievable…..!
You are not only a man whisperer, you are women’s brain changer! Yep. You can put that on your timeline! Lol”
“Hi Kat! I just signed up for your program. I am your fan for life, and want to know more. You have no idea how many books on relationships I’ve read in the past year, and nothing seemed to be working! After purchasing your book, and seeing results right away, not signing up for your program would be dumb! LOL. I just got a text message from my EUM “YOU ARE AMAZING!” Dang, of course I am. ; )
Remember how he was all jerk about my watch? You were right! He got the kick! When he called, he said, “You can can have any man you want in a heartbeat, but right now I AM talking to you. Am I special?” Seriously, this kind of conversation is out of this world! HE asks me if he is special to me. AND I was the one chasing him!
I said, “Of course you are special and unique, but let’s not put any labels.” And then he said, ”I just miss you so much!”
He just sent me text you are so sexy! What should I say? Thank you? Lol?” ~Natalie, Arizona
UPDATE on Natalie, 9/27/2013:
I woke up to a message from Natalie to check her wall. And sure enough she is now in relationship. A week or so ago she still asked advice on some of the other guys in her rotation, according her EUM. She joined my Journey Inward group coaching and Leaning Back and Cultivating Feminine Mystique workshop (still ongoing), during which time she has transformed herself to become such a high-value woman she had problems with men going gaga on her, including -again- her EUM. Finally the right man stepped up and claimed her. There was “no talk,” no ultimatum, no timeline, none of that traditional junk advice. She doesn’t stay single for long because a woman like her is RARE. That’s how my method works like a charm. It shifts your energy and makes any woman UTTERLY irresistible.
She said, “Thank you, Kat! You taught me so much not just about relationships, but about myself. All we really need to do is stop chasing pavements, use a little patience, and the right one will come and be right there for you. I didn’t ask to change FB status, HE did! And he was proud to announce that. He wants to show me to the whole wide world that I’m HIS woman.”
9/26/2013, as shared in the ladies group:
“I’m still leaning back from everyone (my EUM and other men I’ve been getting to know) and putting all of my energy into making myself full (spiritually and emotionally). After a long day at work yesterday, I fell asleep super early. When I woke up this morning I had a crap load of missed calls and texts. Six of the missed calls were from my EUM. The others were from other men I’ve been getting to know. Of course I was most happy about the calls from my EUM. It hasn’t been like him to call so many times back to back like that, and the fact that he did let me know his state of mind. But I had to remind myself to not get too excited and over-eager.
I’ve been SUPER aggressive with my EUM in the past so I had to remember to play it cool. When I returned his calls this morning, he wanted to know my schedule for today. I let him know that I had things going on – cocktail party later at a country club and also linking up with a friend visiting from out of town. He asked me to call him later today and I said I would. Still debating if I should or just wait for him to lean forward again. It’s not so much about playing games, but just me making sure that I continue to put myself first and not expend my energy trying to control things. This is definitely a bit of a tricky time for me, but I think leaning back is the smartest thing to do! This is definitely a training ground for me.
I didn’t have to call EUM yesterday. He called me. I didn’t question him on his intentions because as I said earlier, I think that would be leaning forward, which I won’t do anymore. I just talked about how much fun I had at my cocktail party. He brought up the conversation about us on his own. He wants me to be his woman again.
I teasingly (though I was serious) said, “If you want me back you are going to have to earn me.” He said, “I’m not going to let you go again.” My response was “Why don’t we just give it some time first and see where we’re at a couple of months from now.” I said that because I want to continue on the path I’ve been of dating, getting to know other people, and growing into myself. I’m ok with his intentions.
As I said earlier, I knew he wasn’t going to come back and try to claim me as his “wife” because he’s not ready. And I wouldn’t even want him to offer me something that he doesn’t feel ready for just to keep me. Never pressure a man to give you something he doesn’t want or feel ready to give you because then he will just end up resenting you. I’m happy with where I am at this point in my life. I’m just going to keep doing me and watch as my life expands. If he chooses to be in it, great. If he does not, it will still be just as great.” ~Charlene, Los Angeles
8/12/2013, as shared in my private group:
“My dearest Katarina Phang, I came to you heart-broken, bruised, crazy messed up, needing an anchor and a change in my life. You fulfilled all of those by teaching me the importance of loving myself first – through the amazing steps of leaning back, mirroring, and discovering my feminine spirit. Through your guidance, and the support of everyone in this group, I quickly found myself starting to let go of my old aggressive, masculine energy, replacing it with someone happy, soft, confident, cool and patient. Gone was the old anxiety of needing to be in a relationship. You helped me see how emotionally unavailable I was – and how I was attracting that exact guy.
I thought Don was an EUM. It seemed logical that I would attract one, being EU myself. But after two weeks of hanging out (I guess we were dating…?) he has claimed me as his. I can’t remember exactly how he said it, but he has made it very clear that he and I are an official couple now.
I was shaking, terrified, practically screaming, crying, everything. I told him who I was, I laid my horror story on the line, and he just shrugged: “Okay, so? I knew I wanted you from the day we met. When I want something, nothing stops me.” I kept giving him a way out and he refused to take it. He was calm, rational, reasonable, and so logical, that even in my highly emotional and petrified state, I saw the sense of his words. Day by day, step by step, letting him lead and take control, set the pace…and trust him, trust myself, trust that this could be a good thing.
Don is a MAN. And I wouldn’t have been able to appreciate his masculinity had I stubbornly held fast to my old masculine habits. It’s SO NICE to lean back, knowing and trusting that my man is masculine enough for both of us. The yin yang balance of his strong masculinity and the femininity that you have taught me creates such peace, somehow.
I wonder, Kat, if you know how effective your teachings are – imagine, after two weeks of seeing this guy, we’re now a couple (although in his book, it’s more than a month, as he knew he would get me by hook or by crook from the minute he met me – and in his words, “It’s been quite difficult to get you!”).
It took me by surprise, because I had no idea that anyone could work those kinds of miracles. My faith in your teachings was amplified full force this weekend!
THANK YOU KAT!
Katarina, I just gotta say, once again – AFTER TWO WEEKS. That’s how amazing your lessons are; I was claimed after TWO WEEKS.
A really good male buddy dropped by for a quick chat. He noticed that Don seems to like me more than I like him. That’s exactly how I like it, because I can lean back all I like, knowing and trusting that he’ll come chasing. It’s awesome being so feminine!
Oh and Katarina here’s another thing I learned from you – the subtle art of playing hard to get. I realized it’s not “playing” hard to get – it’s being such a prize that you are anything but easy! And yet I was soft and obliging whenever he wanted to see me…I would try to make time, even though he knew how jam-packed my schedule was (and still is, and will always be). I came across as such a prize that he claimed me…I think, honestly, because he didn’t want me dating anyone else and running the risk of some other guy winning. Otherwise, like he said, it’s status quo :).” Anita, the Phillipines
Latest update on Kristie 11/28/2013: ENGAGED!!!
Update 6/15/2013 as shared in my private group: “I got my man back. He has all of the sudden gotten very serious. Moving back in, wanting to get married and buy a house together etc. I am letting him move back in but holding off on the rest for now. Leaning back works, and moving on works. But now that he’s back, and living with me, how do I keep it fresh? And make sure it will work before I commit to the rest? This is our second go round living together. Don’t want to make the same mistakes, and I know so much more after reading Kat’s material. But I want to keep our relationship fresh and exciting. We both work 12 hour days, and I have 3 kids at home, so it’s so easy to quickly get in a rut.
We never really went without contact, a week or 2 at the most. The longest we went without seeing each other was a month or so I think but we were always in touch with each other just not daily or on regular intervals like before. We got back together about 10 months ago, only after I started dating someone else and refused to see him at all for a while, but we still talked. It was very up and down and we broke it off again at the end of January right when I bought Kat’s book.
I began reading her material, and putting it into practice when possible (and trust me I was doing EVERYTHING wrong!!!). We never really stopped talking or seeing each other at least now and then after the 2nd break up. And I went on dates with other men, joined a gym, changed jobs and started working more hours and really just focused on myself and my kids. Totally practiced leaning back and mirroring. I told him that I was dating others one night during a conversation and he seemed cool with it. But he has latched onto me since. I have had my reservations about his motives of course. But just thoroughly enjoying the attention from him. We went to a work function of his last night and several of his co-workers told me he told them he was a changed man and was going to marry me.
It is very hard to put into practice things that you learn, it’s just natural to go back to instinctual behaviors when upset, but I was horrible to this man, I turned him into a frog! I really did. And these tendencies still surface, I am very insecure, I can see it in all areas of my life actually. I’m afraid the old me will surface and push him away again. But I have come a long way. I will keep reading and learning and working on building my own confidence. Kat’s material is amazing, and spot on. It is almost an instant change in their behaviors when you put it into full practice. I won’t stop learning and growing with or without this man!!” Kristie Graham, Lousiana.
“I’m so blown away by the amount of knowledge and insight Katarina has on the nature of men’s genetic make-up! And I’m also blown away by the fact how much I didn’t know about what’s healthy for myself in dating and relationship and how much I’m feeling so empowered after reading this book. She’s so extremely smart. Thank you, Katarina, for making us women see how much power we have in our relationship with men!! A must-read, ladies!” ~Janet, Minnesota
“Since reading the book and having coaching with Katarina my life has changed. Not only my life but my perspective on men myself and the expectations we have on ourselves and men! I’ve finally changed my outlook on men and beginning to learn a great deal about them!! This book and coaching has changed my life and is giving me the empowerment to value myself I highly recommended!
Every woman needs this book regardless if you are with the most commited man in the world! Us women crave to understand men. This book is the key to really understanding them. I’m grateful for this journey. I’m too going to pay it forward and help others!
Most woman dealing with this are successful educated and sexy women whom just have insecurities due to their past hurt.
Even therapy hasn’t helped as much as coaching and reading this book! Us women need to embrace our femine side as well as really understanding men and the role they play!” ~Mandy, Australia”
UPDATE from Mandy after blocking me on FB and resisting my advice (she kept relapsing into old destructive habits that didn’t work with her guy even after I told her repeatedly that there was no way a man who just wanted sex would put up with her nagging for over 1.5 years! I told her to either walk away if she was that unhappy or try to stick around and heed my advice while dating other men and stop bringing up the talk altogether which she found it really hard to do. Her case proves that a woman can turn a FWB into a serious relationship if she knows the secret and I teach that secret), 6/30/2013:
“Hi Hun thought I would again reach out to you again with positive feedback and an apology. So I took your advice and moved on well trying to not put my eggs in one basket and five weeks later Brad came back to me confessing his love showing me he filed for divorce which is finalised this month and that he wants exclusivity. Of course at first I took it as a lip service but one month later all is well and moving forward. I love this man, it’s worth a shot so yes you’re right and I apologise profusely to you for not heeding. I’m still dealing with my anxiety and anxious attaching as I’m regaining this man’s trust but Brad has helped through leaps and bounds! His ex knows about me and is moving on and she did start trouble but he stood up to her and said back off!! So I now have the love of my life and I’m still dealing with insecurities but your process does work.
We have also talked about marriage kids moving in together next year things are moving forward.
Basically I fought with myself for a long time about the reality of my EUM (emotionally unavailable man) situation. I always thought I wasn’t good enough and that he never loved me. He only wanted sex!! I should have listened to Kat more but in the end I was having a war with myself and suffering a lot.
I deleted Kat, took things personally and also was very depressed! Why wasn’t this man stepping up??!! Then I just instinctually gave up and began Internet dating, met a guy, hit it off, dated exclusively a month and my EUM was gone! Now this guy was great then began doing some shady stuff. In that time my EUM emailed saying I miss you. I thought stuff you, too little to late even though secretly I missed my best friend!
Things fizzled with new guy and my EUM began declaring his love for me, the words falling off his lips. It freaked me out and I was quite shocked he also filed for divorce and explained that he needed this big shake up to realise that he couldn’t live without me.
He also told me he had been in love with me for months but was scared as he had so much baggage from his ex!! Now I took a chance after his romantic wooing me back and seeing where things go. We are exclusive. I’m also apart of his children’s life now and he is meeting my family next week we plan to move in in a year’s time even though I’ve been dating over year and half, it’s only a month exclusiveness so I wanna take it slow!!
The amazing feeling of having the man I’ve loved for so long say it back proves that leaning back works. You can’t push a man to want or love you. I had to nurture me!!”
STILL ON THE PRESS – SNEAK PREVIEW OF KATARINA PHANG’S NEW BOOK: I have been acquainted with Katarina Phang on the internet for 2.5 years, and she has helped me tremendously with my way-too-long drama, I mean, relationship with an Emotionally Unavailable Man (EUM). In order to thank her for all her time and expertise, as an editor and technical writer, I offered to edit her new book, HE’S REALLY THAT INTO YOU, HE’S JUST NOT READY.
As I am working, I feel almost giddy with excitement, like viewing the world from above for the first time! I feel like I am beholding a secret treasure map to mystical, unseen riches that has been buried for all of time! Wow, Katarina holds some really deep concepts here! This book is golden!
Your book is excellent. Kat, this book needs to be in the hands of everyone who read, “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Because this book is far better and gives hope to women like me, who need to learn from the ground up how to interact with a man.
Katarina’s view on emotionally unavailable men and relationships is profound and beautifully laid out in her manifesto that unriddles the millennial mystery of romance!
Update 6/5/2013: “Well Kat, I want you to know that I feel amazed at how Randy is coming back around these days!!! And I largely credit that to you! Your book helped me to finally understand WHY it’s important to let men initiate. Before I was just doing it cuz I knew it worked. Now I feel internally motivated to lean back. Thanks, I feel pretty darn excited! Totally positive vibes coming from him these days! He invited me out last Friday, and we had a beautiful time from beginning to end! He said some beautiful things that really blew me away. He still isn’t moving our “friendship” to the next level, but he is becoming far more attentive and warm! I hope you get this well publicized, because for real, this deserves to be a best seller, far more than that stupid book, “He’s Just Not That Into You.’”~ Brenda Caley, Editor and Technical
“Hi Katarina! I have just purchased your book because I have been pretty depressed the last few days and I am praying your book and guidance is what I need. I recently started reading the book “Mr. Unavailable & the Fallback Girl” by Natalie Lue and before I started it, I was feeling very hopeful about my guy situation, but that book squashed my good mood and made me feel horrible. I searched online for something to make me feel better about this and found your page. I need hope and I think this is it! I would love to be a member of your private group on FB. Thanks in advance!” Stacey, Minnesota
“I actually think that relationships are supposed to be calm like that. I have it so used to running on adrenal and nervous system creating peaks and troughs. This type of gentle calm anxiety free relaxing is new to me but I love the new needy free me emerging – still working on me but so glad, Kat, to have you in my life walking the road as my guide and reference point. Now I haven’t asked when will we meet next or made any moves or hints to that – am totally letting him lead – am still in shock that he said “I love you very much”- love xxx” ~Mary, Australia
“Leaning back has been the best advice ever!!!! Since reuniting with my guy a few weeks ago, I have leaned back. I don’t unnecessarily call him and have not invited him along to anything yet. I have had a fun social calendar and tell him but don’t invite him. He has been calling me more inviting me out and doing things for me. He had to practically invite himself to the Christmas bar crawl I am going on tonight. I don’t think he liked it too much, it is with my personal trainer. He said if he doesn’t show up call him for a ride home. Haha. This is working great. I did have to guide him once into asking over for him to cook dinner but it came out like it was all his idea :-). He just alluded to me being his girlfriend too. Wow. Didn’t expect that so soon.” ~Paula, California
“Katarina’s brilliant advice for those of us women relating with an EUM is priceless….Katarina advocates that we start taking care of our own emotional needs through self-responsibility which means to get on with our life impregnating a sense of value, self-worth and importance into our daily activities and meditations. We are encouraged to lean back and wrap our arms around our own Hearts and cradle ourselves in self-love whilst chilling out the anxiety driven part of our nervous systems around the need for a man’s love and take the opportunity to breathe freedom, joy, strength, tranquility, clarity and calm into this deeply wounded part of ourselves. The results for me have been beyond belief – the change in my EUM’s attention direction as I have followed Katarina’s advice is that now the Cupids arrow is pointing right back at me!!! Now I get to decide will I catch it or let it fly past me? I feel so liberated and free in my loving and so much more centred, calm and relaxed in my being. Thank you Kat – beautiful !!! ”
UPDATE 6/21/2013: “Lol..Ok Ok I get it I get it……..when a man wants you there is NO question ie is he in to me?????? He swims the river for you..and as Kat says……..if not yes give him a chance, lean back and be in your feminine but honestly this man who is totally in pursuit that I am dating does NOT want to let me go…..!! He has already organised date 3 on Tuesday and weekend date taking me to another seas side area for some R and R! …..the turn around from the EUM is like a blinding light beaming in to my life……….
Well just spent 2 days with my guy….phew what a weekend!! Of opening..emotionally, spiritually, physically..it’s been big and he is sooooo available and he’s asked me to be his girlfriend…..!! I didn’t say YES yet..still processing but our hearts opened to each other and although I was scared on Saturday now Monday night I feel more at ease and am learning to open my heart to LOVE.. It’s scary but a blessing!!! And he LOVES dancing !! He sings and plays the drums and loves my passion for life and what I do in the world…so wonderful to have an engaged and present MAN!! We have another date on Thursday….our conscious couples session was incredibly insightful…….and brought us closer together in truth..highly recommend people do this to set intention of relating….
I walked away from my EUM end of last year. It was the HARDEST choice I have ever made to walk into the light of MY truth and say I dont want this anymore. I loved the guy and was so afraid to let go BUT I let go with love and kindness…….5 months later I have been given Lex……he is 60! and has said he has been looking for a woman like me all his life…and you know I have to confess through my absolute shock that I have been looking for a MAN like him all my life and never believed he was out there……I am still pacing myself IN but the heart armour against the masculine (father) is coming down….” ~Meredith, Australia.
“Hi Katarina. I have re-read your e-book countless times. I wanted to thank you…you’re a god-send. Reading all your posts and other people’s posts as well really helps a lot too. Leaning back totally works and so is staying in my feminine essence. I have no expectations and I receive great surprises from that. I still slip here and there but I remind myself to think in abundance and that everything is okay and I am far from perfect.” ~Jessica, San Francisco
“I just read your book and I love it! I’ve learned so much from you, thank you, I know it took forever to read your book since I didn’t have a computer at that time, I got one last month, and I am happy I did :)” ~Fabiana, Pensylvania
“For so long I fought what Katarina was saying about leaning back. It was too simple. It was a game. It was not at independent women does. It went against my belief of going after what you want. I am reporting now that in my life (I can only speak for myself and my life situation) I was wrong. Dead wrong. Leaning back works. It is miraculous. So I fight the urge and I will continue doing so. To a point. Until the one comes along that is meant to be. Thanks Kat!” ~Tania, Connecticut
“Kat’s methodology of “Leaning Back” is the most simple and profound wisdom for women I’ve seen. It creates a perception of a woman with confidence and high value and men who are interested in a relationship beyond sex gravitate to those exact qualities.
Any woman who has engaged in “The talk” with me was either many steps behind or many steps ahead of where I was in the relationship. If she’s many steps ahead the man will either be scared off by what he perceives to be a needy woman or lie. If he eventually reaches the same point, now there’s a lie early on that clouds things. If she’s many steps behind he’s already lying and it will speed up his leaving and end more dramatically and painfully than need be.
To a man with options, ‘The talk’ does nothing more than highlight a woman’s sense of disconnection and if he was really into her he never would have let her get to that point in the first place. So lean back, let the man prove that he really is ‘That into you.” ” ~ Graham R White, Calgary
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This book will feel counter-intuitive to you and very radical in its approach. But it works!! You won’t find this treasure of advice anywhere else. My system works because, again, it’s not about manipulation. It’s not about some generic relationship advice you’ve heard countless of times that you find in almost any other relationship ebooks that never really works. It’s about transforming yourself to become the best FEMININE woman a man can possibly have. You will be so secure that you won’t have a problem walking away knowing that he will feel A GREAT LOSS; knowing that he will have sleepless nights thinking that he may never find a woman like this ever again!!
“Your book is so awesome that I read it a lot!! Like to remind myself not to make the little mistakes. You can post this if you want. I am a lot more relaxed cos the book gives me confidence that sticking around is worth it! As soon as I shifted my energy, my guy agreed to get back together in relationship. He tested me at the beginning (because I had initially got so frustrated with him that I broke it off 3 times), he tried pushing my buttons to see if I would get mad at him and break it off again, but this time I knew better and I was understanding that guys need guy/ me time. So instead of nagging him I said ok and I welcomed him happy when he came to see me next. This resulted in him being more loving and sweet. And he trusts that I won’t break up with him when I don’t get my way.
My problem is we are so different culturally. He’s druze Lebanese which is worse cos you cannot become Druze by marriage. I guess the relationship is doomed based on this alone but your book is amazing and he clings to me which makes it really hard to end things and we also work together!!!!
Your technique makes him crave me so much he won’t let go…” Dana, Vancouver (9/27/2013)
This book will change a lot of lives and I have no doubt about it. The principles in this book have changed mine too, so I’m sharing what I have learnt to you all, lovely ladies, who care to really understand:
What makes a man tick.
What triggers attraction in human beings, especially men.
What makes a man fall in love with a woman.
What makes a man attach so deep emotionally to a woman.
What makes a man keep pursuing a woman.
What makes a man all MUSHY and can’t let you go.
When a man says he doesn’t want a relationship, what really goes through his mind.
What makes a man want to do all the right things to please the woman he loves.
Why are men prone to emotional unavailability and what to do about it.
How your expectations of what men in love should do can work against you.
Is he really emotionally unavailable or is he just cautious?
What to do when he pulls away or becomes aloof again?
What to do when he’s not over his ex.
What to do when his words are not in sync with his actions.
The right mindset to date/deal with an emotionally
unavailable man that will attract him closer to you.
Why does a man say one thing but do the exact opposite.
What governs a man UNCONSCIOUSLY and when you understand this you get hold of his love and devotion EFFORTLESSLY.
What is Feminine Power and how you can have that magic wand.
And MUCH…MUCH more.
This book also will deconstruct your paradigm, the broken old one that hasn’t served you, and replace it with an empowering new one from which the feminine magnetism will naturally emanate. You will become a man magnet by the virtue of that new paradigm.
It is so radical yet so reasonable, it’s like being awakened from a long sleep.
And here’s the latest news from my private groups (I have two currently and you’ll be included in both). My “students” seem to have a lot of interesting things happening in their lives since they practice my Feminine Magnetism skills. I’m so excited listening to the stories shared in our growing community. When they get away with the chasing energy/behaviors, all these men they were crazy about and who were lukewarm toward them and the exes who dumped them seem to come out of the woodwork and start to chase them instead. And some are INSPIRING COMMITMENT without even trying like Anna below (7/7/2013):
“We left to go to his friends bbq get together. He introduced me to all of his friends and their family. I was surprised and enjoyed meeting everyone even though I can’t remember all of their names. One of the oldies commented that I will be quizzed on who’s who, jokingly. Everyone was very nice and I felt welcomed.
I didnt think much of it until his friend’s sister’s daughter asked him if I was his gf and he said yes. Wow! It works, Katarina :).
Around 8 pm, we all went to the park to watch the fireworks. Also, Matt’s sister was there to meet us. He introduced me to his sis who seems to know so much about me. She’s really pretty and nice. More of their friends friends arrived and I was introduced as Matt’s gf :).
It was the first time he held my hands and our first kiss . I had a great time. I closed my eharmony account simply because I just want to focus on us now that we are exclusive. Thanks Kat :). All I did was focus on myself, no expectations, and repeated to myself over and over that I’m a goddess and the most desirable woman alive whether he pick me or another match.
Still surprised that he picked me!” ~ Anna, Chicago
And here’s from Miska, posted on my group 7/7/2013:
“Such a crazy fun day yesterday at the Resort Pool party with my non EUM. Sun, water, margaritas… All the while my EUM is going crazy texting me. After I left my non EUM for the night, I texted my EUM and we chatted back and forth, then suddenly my phone rang and it was him. He “wanted to hear my voice”. This is the same guy who told me he that he really isn’t good on the phone and prefers text. He’s called me three times this week. Funny how things change… He’s saying things like he doesn’t want to share me and I’m all his…. mmmmhmmmm, we’ll see what kind of conversation we have when he gets back from his trip. We have a date on Monday. Jealousy rearing it’s ugly head perhaps???”
And then on 7/9/2013:
“Last night’s date with my EUM (emotionally unavailable man) was incredible. Dinner at one of favorite little hole in the wall places. Incredibly passionate and intimate night. He shared a lot of his past personal story with me and I with him. He told me that he was never a PDA person before he met me, but I am so different than anyone and I bring out so many things in him that no one else ever has and now he can’t not touch me. He said he said didn’t think he would feel the same about anyone else though, as when we split up for about 6 weeks, he went out and never felt a PDA urge.
I got a good laugh, because I had sent him pics of me in bikini’s I was thinking of wearing for the pool party I went to and he slipped up last night and said “when you sent me that pic of the cream one, I was like ABSOLUTELY NOT!” I said, “Oh, so that’s not one you want me out in public without you?” and we both laughed…
We planned a trip for hopefully August and we made plans for later this week (pending him being sent out on a flight of course) :/
Him spending the night has been an issue in the past. Last night, he shut off the TV and grabbed my hand and said let’s go to bed. My heart fluttered. We just held each other tight. I told him that I loved snuggling with him and he said, I love it too, there isn’t a more perfect place to be. Then he kissed my shoulders and forehead until we fell asleep. Just Divine.” ~Miska, AZ
UPDATE on Miska: She broke up with him a few weeks ago because she got tired with his continuously calling her a “friend.” Two weeks later he reached out to her and they began to see each other again. This is what she posted on 9/3/2013:
“Such a happy girl! Got to spend the day yesterday with my sweetie. He had to fly out this morning for the entire week (BOO). He told me he told his family about me and I’m meeting his brother and Dad in a few weeks when they come out. He told me that when his brother asked what I was like, he told him I had an incredible personality, was really funny and we got along great. He said, “I purposely didn’t tell them how beautiful you are because I want their jaw to hit the floor when we walk in.” And yes….he is officially calling me his girlfriend now. Can’t stop smiling… :)”
And here’s is from Rosa, on 7/10/2013:
“I discovered yesterday that I have a boyfriend! A guy who I’ve been on a few dates with (yesterday was date no. 3) said at dinner yesterday that he’s not had a girlfriend 7 year youngers before (he’s 41 in August) and that I’m the cutest girlfriend that he’s ever had. So I guess that makes me his girlfriend! Its funny because I had leant back without realising as I’ve been focusing on my dance comp but he’s been pursuing me a lot. He emails and texts me everyday and actually prefers speaking on the phone. I do also want to thank Hillary for posting something the other day in Kat’s other group that made me think as I almost turned this guy down. Hilary said that we need to readjust our egos if we keep thinking we’re better than the guy who likes us. When this guy kept chasing me at first I felt a bit so so but I thought I should go with it and he’s actually a really nice guy. Funny thing is that because I’m super busy at the moment, all of my other stuff has preoccupied me which means that I’m not obsessing about him. I guess this is giving him the space to do his thing.” ~Rosa, London
From Shania, 9/27/2013:
Well, I’m now officially in a blossoming relationship with Camera Shop guy I believe his hesitation was that he was working his feelings through. He mentioned to me last night on our date that he likes to take things slowly because he doesn’t want to invest in someone until he feels that they’re worth investing in. I think he’s curious to see how the age difference will work out (he’s 15 years older) but he’s definitely pursuing me now. He said that I fascinate him because I’m so relaxed, feminine and I make him feel comfortable so he feels that he can be himself with me. He said that he enjoys spending time in my company and that I’m also happy for him to do his thing.
I’ve been in Kat’s groups for almost a year and it’s really made a difference. Previously I would end up in situations where I wasn’t quite sure if I was properly seeing a guy. I would be walking on eggshells and would be anxious about doing anything to upset the status quo and was too afraid to ask about what we were doing. Now this year, I’ve had 3 actual defined relationships. Yes 2 didn’t work out because as we got to know each other, we realised that we weren’t compatible but the difference for me is that these guys have actually wanted to have a relationship with me and they pursued me. I wasn’t left in a weird limbo land unsure of the situation. I’m slowly learning to accept that not every date will lead to a relationship and not every relationship will last but I should make the most of now.
From Emily, 7/13/2013:
“I was originally a goal-oriented person (not for career tho only act like this in a relationship) and I have gradually transformed to process-oriented after reading your book and all the comments you haven’t given to me and others, and I should say it really works! I know I’m not there yet and still have to work on myself more but I have to say you’re the only one that gives advice that really works!
I should say thank you! I have read a few relationship coaches books since 2 years ago and nothing works only except for your technique! Just to borrow someone else’s word – I’m your life time fan!” ~Emily, Australia
From Vivi 8/21/2013:
“I’ve signed up for your Leaning Back Workshop. I also want to thank you for your amazing method. It works wonder. I mean I bought like 5 books from many different big names in the industry, but nothing compares to your teaching. The way you put together things, word to word is magic. I did what you told me to do, and just yesterday he called me, twice in 1 hour, he comes back to his old ‘loving me’ self, and he asked me to have lunch with him today, which I didn’t answer right away, I subtly change the topic, I guess I still not sure what to do. But then 5 hours later I text him saying that I would love to have lunch with him and that I’m glad he asked me.” ~ Vivi, Indonesia
From Marina 8/20/2013:
“Different insights always came out after re-reading Kat’s book. Also being part of this group has helped me to see how powerful and vital for me to cultivate my feminine energy. My three months of leaning back experiment has been an eye opening experience for me. At first the beginning of this journey was to how to get my ex back and now it is how to embrace my feminine essence. The results are being a cool and relaxed woman. Unlike before: I would be a highly anxious, angry and masculine driven woman who wanted to demand, chase and pin for a man. Now I feel at ease with my being, open to what the universe brings, happy under my own skin and no lack. My three months journey has been an amazing one–rediscovered my creativity, reconnected my spiritual root, met amazing women from the group and finding my own feminine essence. I thought that I could not find it and in reality my femininity has always been within me. Kat just gave me the tool to tap into it. I am totally amazed by the feminine power. I feel I can thriving in this wonderful energy and loving it. This is coming from a woman who is a very logical thinker and 100% masculine energy driven woman. Wish I know that when I was in my 20s.
I found Kat a few years ago and I wasn’t even ready to hear what she was teaching. I was in my full masculine mode climbing the corporate ladder. Now I am open and ready to take in her lessons. With my ex, I was trying my best to be in my feminine mode but I felt there was a lacking from my side. After reconnecting with Kat, she gently guided me in my process of being in touch of my feminine essence. Leaning back has helped me to keep my mind sane, see my dynamic with my ex clearly, nurture myself and mitigate some other life issues.
This three months of leaning back experiment has my ex writing long emails and calling me. I just keep leaning back and mirroring him which is very unlike me. In the past, I would chase him, over-analyze and fantasize that we will work it out. Now, I just quietly observe and don’t put much thought about what he said. All are just words, noise and no action from him. In the meantime, I am discovering, experimenting and appreciating my femininity. Don’t beat yourself up just take this period of your life as your fine-tuning process!” ~ Marina, San Francisco
Oh no, don’t be surprised. Women who graduate from Katarina Phang’s School of Feminine Magnetism will get picked left and right over any other woman because they are real women who know how to act like a woman.
Hi Katarina, I got your book last night and read most of it in one sitting! It’s really great and I like how it focuses on the cup half-full approach instead of what I’m not getting. This starts to change the reader’s perspective making it more about the reader than clinging on to what the reader isn’t getting. Most dating experts tend to focus on the outcome and what the woman isn’t getting at the time. That causes a lot of anxiety for women and pressure to move the relationship along. Your approach is a better fit for me. Thank you!” ~ Jenny, New Jersey
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