Katarina, your principles and tools work like a charm. I feel like a woman in this relationship, something that is so totally new and alien to me. A knight in shining armor truly exists. I don’t think I can get back to the ways things were after learning all these things from you. You truly change my life!
My client Amy is happy to report how her boyfriend really steps up now after implementing my relationship tools. She used to be the chaser because her timeline was usually so much ahead of her love interests’ and she had too much masculine energy of taking charge to just wait around or be patient for them to initiate anything.
She didn’t realize she was leading the courtship and she was feeling shortchanged because she felt she was always the one who had to do everything.
Many women are trapped into this kind of heartbreaking situation because they don’t understand the principles at work here when it comes to having a fulfilling relationship with a masculine man. Thanks to her masculine energy she either scared the guys off before it went any distance or ended up in a convenience relationship or a relationship with a beta male (feminine-energy guy) whose energy matched hers but neither made her happy.
She wanted what most women want: a relationship with a masculine-energy guy in which she felt loved, cherished and adored. In other words, a relationship in which he invests as much as she does.
In the past she was always the one who invested so much because she was so eager to prove her worth by over-functioning. The over-investment prevents her lovers from doing their part. The more she does and gives, the more she invests and contrary to her belief, the guys didn’t love her more for that or more motivated to do the same.
She was losing her mind until she found me when she started dating her current boyfriend. As usual, before too long she started with the “taking charge” mode because she really liked him. And as what usually follows, he began to pull away. She chased harder and he was pulling away further. She googled the net with certain keywords and found my article and after emailing a few times, she purchased my book and hopped on the coaching program as well.
Nowadays, she can’t be happier in her love life. She applied my Feminine Magnetism™ principles and her boyfriend has been stepping up consistently. Not only she pulled him back from the brink, he is also investing in the relationship in a way that no other past boyfriend has ever done. He leads and moves the relationship forward slowly but surely.
She wrote, “Katarina, your principles and tools work like a charm. I feel like a woman in this relationship, something that is so totally new and alien to me. A knight in shining armor truly exists. I don’t think I can get back to the ways things were after learning all these things from you. You truly change my life!”
Another thing is, her boyfriend was so used to being chased too in the past. He was so used to doing very little. And thanks to that he was never really invested in those women either. She quickly remedied her situation and gave him a taste of being in the relationship in which he had to work for it. The process made him feel like a man and connected to her as a man would with a woman he consciously chose, pursued and won over.
Take that away from him, you take out romance of the equation. No wonder why so many women feel so uncherished.
So to summarize, here are the pointers of what you should NOT do so you don’t over-invest AND allow him to invest in you (only when a man is invested he will move the relationship forward and commit to you):
- When we like a man, we are flooded with grand visuals of how great it will be to be in a relationship with him. We think, mull and fantasize over and over and before we know it we are deep in obsessive thoughts about him…BEFORE we even know how he truly feels about us. The obsession creates emotional investment and as such we are ahead of him. We arrive before he does. Often we become needy and show signs of insecurity that repels him. When we later find out he doesn’t really have the same agenda as us -and often it is caused by our over-eagerness-, it is hard to undo it. It’s hard to get out of that mode. We become the piners and it’s not inspiring attraction.
- Lean back and refrain from the temptation to over-function. Spread your psychic energy so your thoughts aren’t focused on him. The more you let your thoughts run rampage on him, the less you are able to be patient and lean back. He has to be the one who sets the pace (sometimes, it’s the woman who feels the relationship runs too fast, but it’s a subject for a different day). It never helps when a woman is ahead of a guy. It almost always works better when he arrives first, that’s why observing and walks with him beside him -instead of running ahead of him with your wild imaginations and fantasy- at all times is warranted here.
- Don’t come with the suggestions to do things for him (take him to dates, do his laundry, etc) when he barely lifts his finger to do anything for you. Again, mirror him. If he’s really interested in you, he will have to do something to turn things around. That’s what men do. When you do his work for him, what incentive is there for him to get up and move his ass?
Don’t become that woman who pines ever again. Mirroring and following his lead are the ways to protect your heart from the sad case of unrequited love so many women are suffering from.
This way you really know if a guy is truly into you or just use you because you allow him to do so. For my coaching packages, click here.
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