How To Handle a Dating Rotation With Grace
If you are dating more than one man at a time, it only stands to reason that you may find yourself in some situations. It’s not always easy to handle a dating rotation, that is for sure. You will have moments where you second guess yourself when you date different men. Hopefully this article will give you some clarity and help you handle a dating rotation with grace, like a Goddess.
Is it Wrong to Date More Than One guy at a Time?
Some turn this dating rotation thing into a moral issue and really do struggle with if it is right or wrong. No surprise here considering how society has brain washed women. I could write an entire book on the rules of society and why we must question them but I won’t go there today.
No, it’s not wrong to date more than one man at a time. To me what would be wrong is a man expecting you to be exclusive with him when you don’t even know him yet. He didn’t find you on the bargain shelf right? You are smarter than this aren’t you?
Some say that you can’t get to know one man if you are dating multiple men. That’s just crazy. I mean it’s not like you go out with all of them at the same time. You go out with one at a time, and when you are with that man at the time, your focus and energy is tuned into him. This scarcity mentality in our society just has to stop.
What to do When You Aren’t Attracted to a Man in Your Rotation
You will have men that you aren’t attracted to and you will have men that aren’t attracted to you. It’s normal, it happens and there is no reason to get uncomfortable with this. It’s just life.
Some say the best way to handle this is to just fade away. You can do this or you can simply just tell him. Thank you for a nice date, I like you, but I don’t feel the spark, or I am not interested in taking this further and end the conversation.
If he gets pissy or pushes for more explanation, you get confirmation that you made the right choice. Ignore it and keep it moving. Stop feeling bad for something natural in life. You aren’t responsible for the well being of another.
What If You Like One Man in Your Rotation More?
As tempting as it is to give one man more of your time and attention than the others, resist this. Don’t make him a priority before he makes you one. I know many a woman who will cancel a date pre-planned date with one guy for a last minute date with one that they like more. Don’t do this. You risk over investing, especially with your emotions and defeat the purpose of the rotation.
You need to keep this rotation going until he steps up. Funny thing about competition with men, the often rise to meet it. Men are competitive by nature.
A dating rotation helps you keep your emotions or attachments under control so stick with it until you find the man who feels the same way about you as you do about him.
When He Asks if You Are Seeing Other Men
When handling a dating rotation, this is one of those awkward moments, no doubt about it. Often, it’s a sign of a man who may have some insecurity issues. The fact of the matter is, it’s none of his business. He isn’t your boyfriend at this point and you aren’t exclusive. You can tell him it’s none of his business if you want.
I have simply just said, “Why do you ask?” The answers are often quite amusing and it backs them in a corner really. They are going to either accept that you may be dating others and step up the game, or use it as a lame excuse or an out. If a man shames you for this please, please, drop him out of your rotation. Dating more than one man and having a dating rotation is nothing to be ashamed of.
It in fact is a MUST to help you manage your emotional investment without which your relationship will flounder before it blooms. I’m sure you have seen many of past relationships faded thanks to your over investment, correct?
How to Handle a Dating Rotation Like a Goddess
Remember it’s called rotation for a reason. You will be rotating men in and out of your door. If a man doesn’t treat you well, or has unrealistic expectations, rotate his ass on out. Another one will be along to take his place.
Continue to date others. This does work and often causes a man to step up in a Relationship. Don’t be scared to have a dating rotation and don’t be scared you will lose one man because of it. If anything, he should begin to fear he will lose you, so don’t get confused here.
So relax, lean back and enjoy and handle your dating rotation like a Goddess. In the meantime, why not enroll in Katarina’s workshop, Leaning Back and Cultivating Feminine Mystique.