How To Get Him To Marry You Without Much Fuss
How to get him to marry you come easy to my clients. The last two weeks are “engagement season” in my community. Two of my most successful clients got the ring. I always knew they would eventually get there.
First it’s my client Chelsea whom I featured before and who is also the first subject of the Goddess Interview in the Feminine Goddess Enlightened Relationship Monthly Membership.
She gushed in the support group (get my ebook to be included): “Aww thank you so, so much, everyone! I’m so touched and overwhelmed by everyone’s wishes. It was absolutely amazing- we’re vacationing in Jamaica right now and before we left, everyone at work and friends were all pretty much betting that he would do it on our holiday. I dunno, it was just a feeling! He just kept telling me “I love you sooooo much” and would kiss me so tenderly, it just felt like he was ready – and then he would be quite distracted by messages etc.
There were a few other clues which were quite obvious in hindsight but I just wrote them off in my head so I could drop my expectations as well ;). But when it didn’t happen the first couple of days, I just wrote off the idea and stopped thinking about it. Turns out he had the ring and had planned to do it on the trip, but didn’t really know when or how he was going to ask me to marry him – hence the delay.
So the night before, our resort was lit by moonlight and I was commenting on how magical it was… We were walking around the moonlight filled beach and he thought it was the perfect time to do it – but he didn’t have the ring on him (back at the villa) so he couldn’t do it. Anyways the next day after lunch, we walked back to the villa, and he just sat on the lounge chair on the deck, and pulled me towards him and held me. He asked me the question, but because I didn’t think it was going to happen, I thought I mis-heard – so I said, “what?” He repeated the question again and I said, “really?” He nodded and pulled out the ring.
Turns out he’d been thinking about it for two months – he had asked my dad for permission when they were over 2 months ago. After he asked, he spent the next two months researching rings, speaking to friends and dealers, sourcing the stone from Geneva, then taking it for setting etc. He put in so much work and he’s SO proud of it – keeps asking to look at it on my hand etc. Absolutely adorable <3″
When she first came to me she had a problem because her dating life never really panned out. At the time her stumbling block was sex before commitment. She felt, like most women, she shouldn’t “give the guy” sex before he commits to her. And of course the stuff she read out there didn’t help either. This power struggle about sex was why her dates always fizzled eventually as she recounted in the blog post about her.
So I reassured her to go for what her heart tell her: have fun but drop all expectations. Live in and for the moment. Forget about guarantee cause there is none. She got the morale boost she needed and ran with it.
She was a fast learner. That little reassurance I gave lightened up her energy, she became the go-with-the-flow goddess that made him addicted with her soft, positive, uplifting feminine energy. One of the main reason why my method works is because it eases your anxiety. Anxiety is the number one killer of a relationship. It dampens a man’s interest so he’s pulling away from you.
Four months after they started dating, he claimed her (and mind you they were long distant back then). It was September last year. Nine months ago she moved in with him. And now 1 year 2 months later he asked her to marry him! They’ll marry early next year.
All was done AGAINST “common wisdom” out there (to make him wait for sex, yada…yada…yada).
Here’s another proof of what I teach. No strategy needed. The less you strategize and live in your head, the better it works. Just be a woman he can’t afford to lose. That’s it. Simple, isn’t it?
Wants to hear her story? Get the recording of her interview here. When you listen to her, you’ll understand why I think she’s a superstar. Her self-confidence and softness are ALLURING. When you are a woman like that there will be NO question as to how to get him to marry you because you bring joy and values into his life. You makes his life easier, not harder.
The second Goddess that got a ring is Keisha. She in fact got it a week before Chelsea, but….she hasn’t said YES yet!
You might wonder, is she crazy? Especially if you know that she has waited seven years for this day to come.
She found me after breaking up twice over his non-committal stance. She worked with me and signed up for all my programs as Chelsea did. They got back together a few months later, by then she has learned to drop all expectations and take marriage off the table and stop wondering how to get him to marry her.
She started anew. Yet their history, her wounds, his family crisis (dad being sick) and her own family crisis (mom diagnosed with cancer and later passed on due to a road accident) proved to be tough for them to navigate so they were taking a break again. She recounted her ordeal in the first cycle of Four Components Of Melting His Heart.
Keisha, as on the 2nd breakup, continued to work on herself realizing she still carried a lot of wounds from her childhood that she needed to heal that caused her to be easily triggered.
She had totally let go of the idea of ever marrying this man…though she loved him to death.
During the tribulation at the time of her mother’s death, he kept trying to reach out to her and even brought marriage into the conversation.
She wrote: “Katarina Phang, you will be the first to know! Ha. My thought is, look, he had me waiting around for marriage for 7 years. 7 YEARS. LOL. We have a few things to sort out first. I love him and this is all I ever wanted.
However, I’m full of a lot of emotions right now with the loss of my mother so suddenly and tragically, to be honest, myself and my family are my priority. I’m super busy flying back and forth to FL each month at least to help my dad deal with all the business dealings attached to this process we have to go through.
We haven’t begun to even sort through things in the house on a basic level. It’s just not my main concern right now. I think I need to be a little more together before I would finalize anything. Also, he is switching over jobs and that’s a transition. I just feel like we have waited this long.
We have these priorities that I would like to feel less vulnerable about that I mentioned above. If it’s meant to be, it will be. I’m not scared or rushed to ” lock something in”…….. I am confident the time will come when everything falls into place for me emotionally and in that moment, is when I want to accept. Free and clear to the extent it’s possible.
We just want to do it right this time around. Make sense? Or absolutely crazy sounding!!!???? Lol.
That’s just how I feel about it. I trust it’s going to just happen when it is suppose to. If he can’t wait for that and respect me wanting it like that, then he should head back onto the road. It’s not all about him anymore after 7 years, he owes me this at a minimum. #goodthingscometothosewhowait as Katarina says: #highvaluewoman = you are not so easily replaced. Remember that.
When you truly believe that to your core being then there is no anxiety, fear, need to control a situation or outcome. They will wait. The alternative isn’t one they are fond of as they have already made their little trip into the real world and have a full understanding of what’s out there. You believe this completely when you call the shots. Not from a place of control or insecurity. From a place that’s honoring you and what you need. Once you respect and follow what your instinct and mind tell you what you need, your needs are met and you can move from that place of complete fullness to a functional relationship where you work together. # respect4you. #youhavearrived “
She got what she ever wanted when she totally let go. So what does it teach you?
Yup, loosen up the grip already. Pressuring a guy to marry you is now how to get him to marry you. It almost always backfires and it’s hardly satisfying when you have to force a man for something that’s supposed to be beautiful and the happiest moment in your life, is it?
You can learn about her evolution in Cycle 1 and 4 of Journey Inward. She guest starred in Cycle 4 and we call that cycle the “get-ex-back” edition of Journey Inward. And she will surely be in line for the Goddess Interview next year!
If you have purchased my ebook she was also in the bonus teleclass # 2 “Why Do Women Hang Onto Relationship Past Its Expiry Date.” That was when she first found me, just over a year ago.
So if you haven’t read it, get it here and you will learn so much about what it takes to make a man attracted and keep being attracted to you.
Stay in this blog because you will learn so much about a lot of things that haven’t worked for you in your love life and how to fix them. And I have just recently updated my ebook with additional 20 new pages so there is more meat in it now. If you sign up to my newsletter, you will receive the first three chapters. This book is a primer on dating and gaining a man’s love and adoration for any woman.
Please share this with the buttons below and I’d like to hear your comments as well (and don’t forget to subscribe to this blog for more insight into the mind of men on the right side bar.
Image Credit Depositphotos