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He is Afraid of His Feelings and Other Stalling Tactics Men Use


he is afraid of his feelings

Recently one of my single girlfriends came to this conclusion that she needed to prove herself to the guy she was dating because he told her he was afraid of his feeling towards her.  Oh boy!  Here we go again.  The perfect stalling tactic a guy uses when he isn’t sure about you yet.

This is one of many things men will say to pace you when they feel you are getting ahead of them in the game.  A few other things men say along these lines are:

  • I am scared of getting hurt
  • You deserve better
  • I want to take it slow
  • I don’t know what I want
  • I am confused
  • When this or that gets better, things will change

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Self Sabotaging Through a False Sense of Entitlement in Relationships


entitlement in relationships

None of us like to think we could have a sense of entitlement in relationships, but the sad truth is most or many do.  Entitlement you see is like an expectation.  While there is nothing wrong with expecting things like a good life, a good job, good love, the danger comes when you expect it to manifest from others and what they do and don’t do.

Recently I read a post from a woman who was angry with her boyfriend because he didn’t call her when he said he would.  She wanted to know how she should make him pay for this “betrayal” to her.  She was torn between giving him a piece of her mind or giving him the silent treatment. She has a sense of entitlement that if goes unchecked, will destroy her relationship.

Turns out the poor guy fell asleep.  All that negative energy she generated with her thoughts of entitlement and what she deserved and did not get.  Expecting other people to do or behave the way you want them to stems from a sense of entitlement, a negative one. Read more »


How to Stop Being Controlling in a Relationship


 being controlling in a relationship

A relationship with a man will never be perfect no matter how wonderful he is, but many women still have high standards for how they expect to be treated. They don’t know how to stop being controlling in a relationship and many don’t even realize they are controlling.

When your expectations of a man go unmet or you perceive some wrong doing of his, suddenly he has made a “mistake” or has failed to show you that he cares. However, what we often call a mistake is actually a creation of the mind – it’s the negativity we feel inside ourselves that we attach outside meaning to.

When we allow our minds to draw conclusions from the actions of another, we go into our “fixer-adjuster” mode. This is the moment many women feel compelled to dump all their negative feelings onto their partner and demand that a situation be resolved in a particular way. While this may be well intentioned, the truth of the matter is that this incessant urge to fix and adjust is a form of control. Read more »


The Beauty of Leaning Back in a Relationship -Real Examples


leaning back in a relationship

Leaning back in a relationship, whether it’s brand new or a well established long term or marriage is about releasing control of the outcome.  Many try to make it more complicated than that, but it’s basically just that simple.

Many in Katarina’s group that haven’t been through her helpful coaching groups can’t seem to grasp this.  They want specific information like it’s some sort of rules to leaning back in a relationship. How long should I wait to answer his texts?  How many texts can I initiate and not be seen as leaning forward?

Leaning back is about taking care of yourself first.  It’s not investing more into him than he is into you.  It’s about not having expectations of where things are headed.  It’s about not trying to control him in any way.  Leaning back is like surrendering. Leaning back is about mirroring a man and his level of investment.  Read more »


How To Mirror A Man


how to mirror a man

Learning how to mirror a man may be one of the most powerful tools in your relationship toolbox. When a relationship starts to heat up, it’s important that a woman doesn’t get ahead of a man’s timeline. Sometimes a woman may mentally rush to the “finish line” in her relationship, i.e. exclusivity, living together, marriage, etc.

While a man may not be against getting to the finish line one day, he will often prefer to take the “scenic route”, and not be in any rush to settle down. When a woman tries to hurry her man to catch up with her, she may get upset with him, nag him, pout, withhold love, and do other unattractive things that only make a man pull away. The smarter thing for a woman to do is to mirror her man, and enjoy the current moment.

Speaking of the current moment, the important thing about mirroring a man is paying attention to the effort that your man is making right now, and matching that. You need to observe “What Is”, what is really happening in your relationship, not just the fantasies that you may be projecting onto it. Read more »


How to Flirt With A Guy Over Text and Build Attraction



how to flirt with a guy over textIf you know how to flirt with a guy over text you have a great advantage in the dating world.  Your text appeal or lack of, can have an affect on if a relationship progresses or not.  Texting or rather flirty texts if done right can build attraction for a guy.

Your texting skills with guys can make you stand out.  Do you know how many women don’t know how to text guys?  Many think that to flirt with a guy over a text message is about sending sexy pictures.  Nothing could be further from the truth.

To flirt with a guy over text, it’s about being subtle, mysterious, a bit illusive, teasing him, being playful and building some anticipation.  Flirting is about giving a man just enough to to get his imagination doing the attraction work for you!

When to Flirt With Text Messages

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How To Deal With Depression And Anxiety Without Medication


how to deal with depression and anxiety

“Over the past two decades, the use of antidepressants has skyrocketed. One in 10 Americans now takes an antidepressant medication; among women in their 40s and 50s, the figure is one in four. Experts have offered numerous reasons. Depression is common, and economic struggles have added to our stress and anxiety.” ~A Glut of Antidepressants – The New York Times

Being in this niche has kinda accidentally granted me a mental health professional title simply because relationship brings up a lot of unresolved wounds and insecurities in anyone and a relationship coach has to deal with many emotional issues and the capacity to help clients to heal them is a prerequisite before any of them can maintain a healthy relationship.  A lot of women who come to me are ridden with anxiety, anger, and depression and thanks to those things they can’t keep their guys attracted.

They don’t know how to deal with depression and anxiety on their own or manage their own emotions and heal their wounds.

I focus on those emotional aspects and the minute they know how to shift their perspectives and deal with their own uncontrollable impulses (that are derived from dysfunctional thinking habits or thoughts), all of a sudden the dynamic of the relationship changed.

The rest is history….all of a sudden I’m one of the most sought after relationship coaches that truly has piles of success stories up my sleeve with my well-known spiritual twist to all my advice.  These women not only tell their tales of keeping their romantic love intact but also how my tools and principles also work in every aspect of their lives and teach them how to deal with depression and anxiety. Read more »


He Texts but Never Makes Plans – E-tethering Anyone?


he texts but doesn't make plans

So you met a guy, maybe on a dating site, maybe even in real life and he now has your number.  He texts, you reply, he texts, you reply.  Seems to be going well, only problem is after a few days or a week, you realize he texts but never makes plans to actually see you.  What is a girl to do?

This often happens after you have spent some time with a guy, maybe even a few dates.  You think he must be interested, after all he is still texting you, maybe even every single day.  He takes the time to text you good morning or text you goodnight.  Maybe asks how is your day.

You tell yourself, he wouldn’t be texting me if he wasn’t interested.  Maybe he even tells you he is busy or has a work or family crisis going on, so you justify why he texts but never makes plans.

What do you do when a guy texts you but never asks you out?

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When To Walk Away From A Relationship


when to walk away from relationship

When to walk away from a relationship shouldn’t be such a mystery.  I never advise women to walk away from a relationship when I know they are not over their guys unless there is abuse involved.  It’s a useless piece of advice that never works.  Instead of “walking away” because you’re feeling pissed and coming back a bit later that makes you look unstable, you should find his rivals.


Here’s a post from Jessica in the group: “Update! I broke up with emotionally unavailable man for an emotionally available guy as many of you may recall from a few weeks ago. Let me tell you how this is going….

He’s been throwing a “mantrum.”  He called me last night yelling and complaining and accusing me of cheating and many other things….

I just listened and said “believe what you want… I am not replying…” And then at some point I started to cry.  He stopped, he cried too and then he started begging and pleading for me to reconsider.  He said ” Please don’t leave me I will do anything, I will meet your kids, your family, I will take you wherever you want to go, the best restaurants, vacations – we will do it all I just want to be with you for whatever it takes.”

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How To Be A Feminine And High Value Woman Without Being A Doormat


how to be a feminine and high value woman

Being a feminine and high value woman is neither a ticking time bomb or a doormat.  A goddess knows when to stand up and put her foot down.

“I turned my man from EU to EA by leaning back. A year ago he was unsure about me and yearning after other women, which made me an anxious mess. Only when I TRULY gave up on trying to hold onto him did things change. He chased and chased and now he is devoted to me and constantly gives to me and makes me happy. I enjoy the moment with him and am not thinking long term. You can’t fake leaning back and being happy. You HAVE to do the inner work.

Katarina Phang proves it that if I can go from crazy to a goddess and high value woman, ANYONE can!!

When I first met him, he was crazy about me and I wasn’t that interested so he chased and it was just fun for me. We started seeing each other and I instantly became dependent on his attention and asked about exclusivity straight away. Read more »

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