Yes, unless he’s in your life and consistently investing in you, this connection thingy is all just speculation and -sorry- your wishful thinking. How many of you are so deeply in love with “the connection” you shared and can’t move on cause you hang on to that idea while if you ask him he doesn’t even remember what kind of connection you two had or what he had said in the past.
“So I have a (long) story for you ladies. Several years ago, I dated a man who I felt instantly smitten with. This is unusual for me because every other time in my life the men I’ve fallen for grew on me slowly.
But not this one.
He hit me like a ton of bricks and I just KNEW he was “the one.” He pursued me hot and heavy and even though we had opposing schedules (I worked nights and weekends, he worked weekdays) he asked me for every free moment I had. We had this connection that was just too strong to deny, and when we were together, there was no doubt in my mind he felt it too. Continue reading
The Rules are about how to secure an outcome by applying a set of strict strategies. When you are all about outcomes, your energy is heavy and manipulative. And yes you come across aloof and uninterested in genuine connection. You just are interested in a goal which is to make him submit to your whim. Some guys will go for that…yep the backbone-less beta variety you have no interest in, not the guys you are attracted to. Not the guys who have options cause they will scratch you off right of the bat.
Cherry shared in the group: “Long post, but I’ve decided to share my story, because I want women on here to know that Kat’s philosophy really does work and can transform your dating life.
My story: 2 years ago I moved from vegas to Austin, 23 yrs old. I’d never had a serious bf (and was still a virgin) mainly because I just couldn’t get guys to want me long term. I was the Queen of chasing and convincing.
I moved into a house with two guys, renting a room in their house. LONG story short, me and one of my roommates, I’ll call him M, ended up being very attracted to each other. I fell so hard for him. I liked him SO much. Eventually I lost my virginity to him.
Afterwards, I got very emotionally anxious, attached, needy, possessive, clingy, etc. Continue reading