“My guy friends, male colleagues and boss consider me “cool” but it’s certainly not for lack of authenticity. But most women seem to react to what’s otherwise a very small thing, feel the need to “say something,” react or tell the guy off or “set boundaries”, when in fact the issue is actually far deeper, either coming from a past hurt or wound, a sense of lack or self esteem/self love deficiency. This causes the woman to think that the guy’s offending behavior (however small) is because he doesn’t really love her, will leave her etc – and so she reacts strongly. This ranges from being late consistently, to not calling, to not moving the relationship along quickly, to seeing an ex etc etc. But if you can go back and readdress a lot of your own issues, you can *authentically* be a cool girl.
And I have to say, that’s one of the most genius part to Kat’s teaching – most dating books tell you to just “be” a cool girl, light and breezy, etc, without giving you the tools how. What I love about Kat’s work, and is missing from others, is that she teaches inner work to address deeper issues as to why we can’t lean back, why we attach/cling to dysfunctional relationships etc.” ~Chelsea, London
The last two weeks are “engagement season” in my community. Two of my most successful clients got the ring. I always knew they would eventually get there.
First it’s my client Chelsea whom I featured before and who is also the first subject of the Goddess Interview in the Feminine Goddess Enlightened Relationship Monthly Membership.
She gushed in the support group (get my ebook to be included): “Aww thank you so, so much, everyone! I’m so touched and overwhelmed by everyone’s wishes. It was absolutely amazing- we’re vacationing in Jamaica right now and before we left, everyone at work and friends were all pretty much betting that he would do it on our holiday. I dunno, it was just a feeling! He just kept telling me “I love you sooooo much” and would kiss me so tenderly, it just felt like he was ready – and then he would be quite distracted by messages etc. There were a few other clues which were quite obvious in hindsight but I just wrote them off in my head so I could drop my expectations as well ;).But when it didn’t happen the first couple of days, I just wrote off the idea and stopped thinking about it. Turns out he had the ring and had planned to do it on the trip, but didn’t really know when or how he was going to do it – hence the delay. Read more »