This time of year is the high time for all our insecurities and abandonment issues to come up. It’s necessary to let go Holiday expectations. We associate anniversaries, birthdays, Holidays and Valentine’s, and the fact that guys remember them and do what’s necessary to celebrate them with us or to make us feel special on those days, with love. It’s true when a guy does all that it speaks volume of his love but the opposite doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t either. Those women who are full within are elated when their guy does all that yet they are not offended when he doesn’t either.
My client Gina has been struggling about the Holiday season even though after practicing leaning back and attending my Leaning Back workshop twice (she re-signed up for the current cycle as well) her EUM has consistently stepped up more than he ever did. She shared this in the ladies group, “Hi everyone, I could really use some support today. I am trying so hard NOT to send snarky texts or vibes to my EUM because I’m frustrated by the way he’s been making plans for us to spend time together over this next week while I have holiday time off. I appreciate his efforts, and this is all his idea. I’m battling my own control issues and insecurities regarding the close relationship he maintains with his ex girlfriend’s family, with which he’s choosing to spend Thanksgiving.
I know he means well as he tries to plan some special time for us in the next week, but it’s all last minute and I’m trying to accept that I am not his priority. I think the holiday stress is already getting to me and making me feel less positive. Ugh!
My insecurities about the relationship my EUM has with his ex’s family haven’t been an issue for a while, but have been rearing their vicious teeth in the past few days. I really need to get over it.